Comparing Someone To You

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How can someone compare themselves to you? I know people are struggling, cuz of money, keeping their job or tooo much responsibility, but Aspergers & Autism are harder, I think, cuz they have to do with the brain. I’m not only struggling cuz of my Aspergers, I have Cerebral Pasly, Psoriasis, Dyslexia & Learning Disability, that is five things. I also have alot of pain in my feet & lower legs, cuz of my injury I had over 4 years ago, I also have daily anxiety & breathing issues too.

Each human has such a unique set of circumstances that I don't believe there is any way to objectively compare one of us to any other.

They can compare themselves because their mind is too limited to understand complex problems.

Kitty4670, it really sounds like you were hit with a lead brick. I wish you well. I suspect that some of these conditions may be related. There are probably others on the forum with several of these conditions.

Maybe if you generate a thread about each one of these conditions, one at a time, you might find others who also have experienced them and LISTEN TO THEIR STORY. They may have found some relief. What are their success stories?

My sister compares herself to me and resents me. In her mind she was the troubled unloved child, while I was the golden loved child. I was a straight A student (until I started flunking classes in high school and college - does she know that I flunked classes?). I was cheery and optimistic (and hide the scars on my arms - does she know I have those?). I had a good-paying job (and I flinch or cringe at bright(er) lights and loud(er) sounds and sudden(er) motions and rough(er) tones of voice, etc. and am near tears many times a day - does she know that and know what that's like?). I am sitting stock still at the kitchen table seemingly calm and uncaring as my mom storms off in response to something I have said and my sister stares daggers at me (while my insides twist in agony and my tongue is frozen with the rest of my body).

No one dares to compare themselves to me without ending up shaming themselves or attempting to shame me out of it.

But sure.

Comparably, I don't have "real problems" like medically serious physical and mental health struggles, didn't had those academic relevant learning issues.

Didn't end up having phobias or intolerance to having ended up being unable to work.

I don't have responsibilities like keeping someone alive and sane, run businesses, or even a commited relationship.

It's not like I've buried a parent (or a child, or someone close), it's not like I'm a victim of an unforgivable crime (nor a perpetrator of one and having it's consequences either ways), nor a tragic collateral of some irreversible event whether it's a mistake, an accident or by natural causes.

And it's not like I'm putting up with unreasonable people, or in an unreasonable place.
I'm not in an abusive relationship, not in a stupid victim roles at home, also not the type to ended up being left out and abandoned.

I'm not a pariah, I'm fairly compensated, I'm not starving, I'm not being robbed and perpetually unsafe, I'm not on a verge of homelessness.

I'm not completely independent. I'm not completely dependent either.

It's just me, really.
I don't have a complicated life. I don't have an interesting life story.

Everyone else had it 'worse' than me.
They either have an excuse why they struggle, or, is doing better in spite of that.

I'm lucky. How unfair.

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