Communication

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The vast majority of the time when I try to make the slightest statement, the recipient doesn't

Hear
Care
Understand
Believe (and/or)
Remember

What I said. It makes me wonder if trying to communicate is worth the cost benefit analysis.

Sometimes they don't appear to speak English, but usually they are just not receptive

What are some extreme examples of people not hearing, caring, understanding, believing or remembering what you tried to say?

Way too often. I mostly get people thinking I'm exaggerating. It's my biggest fear to be ignored when I need help and it happens often.

It happens to me often, especially when I point out the suspicious behavior of a popular person, his or her friends rally and try to discredit me instead.

Back in the late 1980s, I took my suspicions about 'Bob' to the facilitators of our divorced people's support group, claiming that his attentions toward women seemed too slick and just a little bit creepy.  They brushed off my suspicions by saying that none of the women had complained, that 'Bob' was always helpful and supportive, and that maybe I was just jealous of how well he got along with the women.  Fast-forward a few weeks, and suddenly 'Bob' has been booted from the support group.  One of the women had opened up in session about how 'Bob' had been harassing her.  A few other women said that he had harassed them too.

A few years later, I took my suspicions about our church's praise-and-worship leader to our head pastor, saying that 'Ted' was acting as if he was superior to anyone else who could sing or play an instrument, going so far as to order people to show up for rehearsals instead of going to work or attending family functions.  'Ted' also seemed to believe he was entitled to direct even the deacons and ushers in their duties, when they already had their orders from the pastor.  It was not until he assaulted the pastor's daughter that all hell broke loose, resulting in the poor girl going through therapy, and three generations of 'Ted's family quietly leaving the church.

Then there was this 1st Lieutenant and the newly-married enlisted woman who seemed to be a little too familiar with each other.  Y'see, her husband had transferred stateside, and the Lieutenant was sooo kind to her . . .

I could go on.

I may not be able to tell much difference between sarcasm and praise, but I do know when something 'funny' is going on.  The trouble is that no one wants to believe me, especially when a popular person is involved.

Most often people tell me I talk too low and they can't hear me.