Treating me rudely at vaccine centres?

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20 Apr 2023, 6:56 am

When i would get my covid jabs at local community centres i remember the staff were talkative and friendly to others who lined up waiting for there vaccine jab. However when it came to me they would often avoid eye contact and not talk to me.

Do you think they treated me this way because I was autistic? The majority of people who went for there jabs had healrh conditions or were elderly.



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20 Apr 2023, 7:41 am

How would they even know that you were autistic?

It's impossible for any of us to explain their behavior since we weren't there to see it.



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20 Apr 2023, 7:50 am

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How would they even know that you were autistic?

It's impossible for any of us to explain their behavior since we weren't there to see it.



I dont really understand why people conduct themselves this way towards me?



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20 Apr 2023, 7:56 am

Since these people don't know you, it could be your facial expression, body language or tone of voice. Those are the bigger indicators to others about this person's mood and whether this person is "friend or foe"



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20 Apr 2023, 11:59 am

They were never rude to me when I had my vaccines done.


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20 Apr 2023, 5:35 pm

Joe90 wrote:
They were never rude to me when I had my vaccines done.



Could be how I perceive them to behave towards me?



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23 Apr 2023, 2:50 pm

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Since these people don't know you, it could be your facial expression, body language or tone of voice. Those are the bigger indicators to others about this person's mood and whether this person is "friend or foe"
I was thinking along this line. It may also be that James did not actively engage them in conversation. A lot of us autistics(including me) s#ck with social chit-chat & we don't say the right things to initiate or get the flow going.


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23 Apr 2023, 2:59 pm

Not everyone chats away to the vaccine people though. When I had mine most people sitting having their vaccines done weren't saying anything, just waiting for it to be done so they can go.

I told them that I was nervous, because I was reluctant to having those vaccines anyway and was worrying about the side effects, so they were talking to me as they were giving my vaccine to help take my mind off it. They were very nice.

But I don't talk much when I'm having my hair cut though, but that's because I can't hear if there's hairdryers blowing, and I don't want others around to hear all my business. Also I relax when getting my hair cut so I don't always feel like talking. But that doesn't stop the hairdressers from being friendly to me though, and I'm friendly to them.


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23 Apr 2023, 3:03 pm

Jamesy wrote:
When i would get my covid jabs at local community centres i remember the staff were talkative and friendly to others who lined up waiting for there vaccine jab. However when it came to me they would often avoid eye contact and not talk to me.

Do you think they treated me this way because I was autistic? The majority of people who went for there jabs had healrh conditions or were elderly.


Maybe the other people were the ones who instigated the conversation with he staff instead of the other way round.

Like I know that when I'm chatty people are chatty back but when I'm hiding under my hoodie people are less likely to want to speak to me.


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23 Apr 2023, 3:04 pm

If they are rude to you just walk out as there are other places that do it.



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23 Apr 2023, 3:10 pm

I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.


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23 Apr 2023, 3:33 pm

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I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.
It seems ironic to me cuz us autistics are usually the ones who are thought to be rude & unfriendly :lol:


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23 Apr 2023, 4:47 pm

nick007 wrote:
babybird wrote:
I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.
It seems ironic to me cuz us autistics are usually the ones who are thought to be rude & unfriendly :lol:



You have not yet met some NHS staff! (Many are great but for some reason the NHS attracts a few people who are beyond rude. Example is a lady who ended up in hospital that my friend knows and she needed an operation. She said she did not want the vaccine because of her personal religious beliefs. A nurse came along and she had a needle andinjected her and the lady thought it was part of the operation proceedure. She teminded the nurse to take care as she wasn't vaccinated and thre nurse said "Oh yes you are! I've just done it! Totally against the will of the lady and she would have refused to enter the hospital if she had known, but some staff are like that.
When I was there I showed the receptionist my official facemask exclusion letter and she was having none of it, and I was going to walk out and the specialist came and stopped me and said it was ok as long as I had the letter. Had the specialist who was giving me one of those brain scans not come, I would have had to walk out because the receptionist was nasty and refused to have someone question her rules... (It was about her not wanting to back down when she spoke). I said I would wait outside and she said I would be taken off her appointment list if I did, and yet outside was clearly visible to her in the reception.

I have watched someone die when I worked a train and an NHS nurse was on the platform, and I asked her for help and she refused. When she saw the ambulance arrive she quickly dissapeared.



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23 Apr 2023, 5:06 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
nick007 wrote:
babybird wrote:
I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.
It seems ironic to me cuz us autistics are usually the ones who are thought to be rude & unfriendly :lol:



You have not yet met some NHS staff! (Many are great but for some reason the NHS attracts a few people who are beyond rude. Example is a lady who ended up in hospital that my friend knows and she needed an operation. She said she did not want the vaccine because of her personal religious beliefs. A nurse came along and she had a needle andinjected her and the lady thought it was part of the operation proceedure. She teminded the nurse to take care as she wasn't vaccinated and thre nurse said "Oh yes you are! I've just done it! Totally against the will of the lady and she would have refused to enter the hospital if she had known, but some staff are like that.
When I was there I showed the receptionist my official facemask exclusion letter and she was having none of it, and I was going to walk out and the specialist came and stopped me and said it was ok as long as I had the letter. Had the specialist who was giving me one of those brain scans not come, I would have had to walk out because the receptionist was nasty and refused to have someone question her rules... (It was about her not wanting to back down when she spoke). I said I would wait outside and she said I would be taken off her appointment list if I did, and yet outside was clearly visible to her in the reception.

I have watched someone die when I worked a train and an NHS nurse was on the platform, and I asked her for help and she refused. When she saw the ambulance arrive she quickly walked off, as she realized she would be delayed getting home. The lady was alive when I asked her for help.




When my brother injured his elbow back in 2013 the nhs didn’t help very much and he had to wait until 2016 to get an operation to fix it properly :roll:



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23 Apr 2023, 5:31 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
nick007 wrote:
babybird wrote:
I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.
It seems ironic to me cuz us autistics are usually the ones who are thought to be rude & unfriendly :lol:



You have not yet met some NHS staff! (Many are great but for some reason the NHS attracts a few people who are beyond rude. Example is a lady who ended up in hospital that my friend knows and she needed an operation. She said she did not want the vaccine because of her personal religious beliefs. A nurse came along and she had a needle andinjected her and the lady thought it was part of the operation proceedure. She teminded the nurse to take care as she wasn't vaccinated and thre nurse said "Oh yes you are! I've just done it! Totally against the will of the lady and she would have refused to enter the hospital if she had known, but some staff are like that.
When I was there I showed the receptionist my official facemask exclusion letter and she was having none of it, and I was going to walk out and the specialist came and stopped me and said it was ok as long as I had the letter. Had the specialist who was giving me one of those brain scans not come, I would have had to walk out because the receptionist was nasty and refused to have someone question her rules... (It was about her not wanting to back down when she spoke). I said I would wait outside and she said I would be taken off her appointment list if I did, and yet outside was clearly visible to her in the reception.

I have watched someone die when I worked a train and an NHS nurse was on the platform, and I asked her for help and she refused. When she saw the ambulance arrive she quickly walked off, as she realized she would be delayed getting home. The lady was alive when I asked her for help.




When my brother injured his elbow back in 2013 the nhs didn’t help very much and he had to wait until 2016 to get an operation to fix it properly :roll:



A farmer near me comitted suicide as he had been waiting eight years for a bladder operation to help him go, and when covid struck they said it could bemany more years so he killed himself. He left a note for his daughter saying to call the athorities and not to look in the barn. She went straight into the barn and found him hanging.



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23 Apr 2023, 5:40 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
nick007 wrote:
babybird wrote:
I struggle to understand the problem here to be honest.

It's not a popularity contest. It's a vaccine.
It seems ironic to me cuz us autistics are usually the ones who are thought to be rude & unfriendly :lol:



You have not yet met some NHS staff! (Many are great but for some reason the NHS attracts a few people who are beyond rude. Example is a lady who ended up in hospital that my friend knows and she needed an operation. She said she did not want the vaccine because of her personal religious beliefs. A nurse came along and she had a needle andinjected her and the lady thought it was part of the operation proceedure. She teminded the nurse to take care as she wasn't vaccinated and thre nurse said "Oh yes you are! I've just done it! Totally against the will of the lady and she would have refused to enter the hospital if she had known, but some staff are like that.
When I was there I showed the receptionist my official facemask exclusion letter and she was having none of it, and I was going to walk out and the specialist came and stopped me and said it was ok as long as I had the letter. Had the specialist who was giving me one of those brain scans not come, I would have had to walk out because the receptionist was nasty and refused to have someone question her rules... (It was about her not wanting to back down when she spoke). I said I would wait outside and she said I would be taken off her appointment list if I did, and yet outside was clearly visible to her in the reception.

I have watched someone die when I worked a train and an NHS nurse was on the platform, and I asked her for help and she refused. When she saw the ambulance arrive she quickly walked off, as she realized she would be delayed getting home. The lady was alive when I asked her for help.




When my brother injured his elbow back in 2013 the nhs didn’t help very much and he had to wait until 2016 to get an operation to fix it properly :roll:



A farmer near me comitted suicide as he had been waiting eight years for a bladder operation to help him go, and when covid struck they said it could bemany more years so he killed himself. He left a note for his daughter saying to call the athorities and not to look in the barn. She went straight into the barn and found him hanging.





When my brother went to speak to the doctor about his elbow she said “Now we all get aches and pains”.