Disconnect And Self Absorption

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I was wondering is it normal for a Aspie to feel this way? for example I am focused on my dog, personal schedule and interests. I consider myself educated and intellectual, I know what's going on in the real world, yet it's not important to me often, I go outside with my dog in the yard and mentally I ignore the other houses or forget they are around, almost feel as if I am out West or just open space. I feel out of touch with my family, can't relate, completely forgot my cousins got married, not interested in gatherings, groups or other affairs. I get depressed easily, emotional, angry or have different morals and beliefs, yet at the same time I do have female friends and am interested in dating, what makes me laugh is I do want to be with a woman, mostly Asian Women don't mind my quirks or odd behavior, do we retain some of the symptoms of low function Autism, just not as severe?

sounds pretty typical to me. Not sure what you describe is "non functional" but more "self contained" My husband and I are both like this and need lots of alone or "down" time. Our idea of being together is being in the same room reading, or just being around the house but not necessarily having more than one or two sentence interactions two or 3 times a day. We both follow our own interests for most of the time but a couple of times a week we do have a meal together or maybe go somewhere we enjoy. Those are always planned way ahead of time and put on the calendar so we both can plan on it. This only works if you find somebody with the same inclinations and need for privacy. We both love to read, but about different subjects. We like the same music, we mostly go our separate ways even though we live together. There are no long intricate discussions. Life is pretty peaceful and this has worked for us for 40 years.
Make sure you find somebody with a solitary or self sufficient nature when you do pair up!

Looks about right to me too. I tend to stand outside of society and keep myself to myself, though I'm outgoing enough with the right kind of people. There's a lot of stuff out there that's of great interest to many people but not to me.

this is me

i am disconnected and self absorption

but im happy this way in my own head and i dont wish people to fix me

i dont go around like oh im all empathy and caring to everyone except myself but i dobt go around deliberately upsetting people either

i just say things if i think its best for me and if it upsets people then its their problem

im got empathy in me somewhere because i naturally protect my son because i love him and i fell pregnant from rape but when he was a baby i knew he needed me so i kept him safe

so im not all that bad but i do enjoy my own autistic little world and find it exhausting to have to tread around peoples feelings all the time unless its my son because hes my baby