I cannot believe I haven't had sex yet!

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I am 30 and have yet to lose my virginity

I want a man to push me against the wall and kiss me passionately while carrying me into the bedroom

That is partially the reason I am eager to get married and why I have the dreams about fictional characters

My boyfriend Jerry said we will drink wine when he comes to see me soon which COULD lead to a sexual encounter

I'm ready to lose my virginity! *wink wink*

People have sex all the time without wine. I’d want to be sober the first time if I were you.

I came close to sex once but I wasn't ready to go beyond passionate kissing

I was a teenager then but now as an adult I feel I am truly ready to get it on with my lover!

Not to be rude, but you seem like you are rushing into things really fast from the posts I've seen. It's okay to want something and to work towards it. Just be careful that you don't end up in a bad situation. Take it a little easy.

This sounds like something you should be discussing with Jerry, and your doctor.

Maybe I am just concerned about my "biological clock" ticking and the fact that I'm tired of being a virgin

Jerry is leaving prison soon and I believe THAT is when sex will finally happen!

I want to lose my virginity to the right guy

I can kiss and touch my plush of SpongeBob SquarePants all I want to but he cannot provide me with my needs because he is fictional

What kind of crime was he in prison for?

And how well do you know him? Did you know him before he went to prison?

His criminal record is not necessarily a reason to reject him as a potential partner, but it is certainly a reason for caution.

If you don't already know him WELL, then your first meeting with him, when he gets out of prison, should be in a public place, like a restaurant or diner. Don't immediately to his place or invite him to yours. It's not a good idea to have sex with him on first meeting.

AFTER your first meeting, THEN maybe have a phone conversation in which you tell him how attracted you are to him and let that evolve into sexy talk.

Then, BEFORE you agree to meet him in PRIVATE, you should have at least one conversation with him about birth control and STD prevention. Most likely, what you will need is for him to agree to use a condom. You should not have unprotected sex (i.e. sex without a condom or other physical barrier) with him until you've been together with him long enough to be sure that you and he will have a lasting relationship.

I have already met him but this will be our actual first date once he leaves prison

He is a sweet guy and is sincere in my letters

But I should still be careful and vigilant

Sometimes, dreams of passion and reality are two different things and for good reason. One could end up unprepared.
I am a virgin who almost had sex. But this is because I wanted to wait for the commitment of marriage which never came.

Passionate dreams still adorn the mists of time! But had I done so before, would mean my now and my future would not be the same.

Why am I a virgin? I guess it is because I am scared! Scared of asking ladies out. Scared of saying the wrong thing or, do the wrong thing. Too scared of hurting a lady if I did have sex as have heard stories... Also scared if a lady became pregnant of the pain I would put her through with childbirth. Maybe I am too sensitive? But also am not exactly popular. So when in the past I was asked out, I would find who I thought were better men than me for them! As I did not have a high oppinion of myself.

BUT maybe one day a lady will want me and grab me so I don't run away! Haha!

Yes. Passion by the tanker load! But acting on the passion? Never really have. Was too much of a "Gentleman" to do that!

But reality is that women and I are opposites. I try not to look at them! I remember promising my Dad when I was 13 never to play with women. (Did not realize he meant sexual). I generally stayed away from girls after that! Haha! I obayed him!

Now I am no longer young, I have given up.

How do you know he is being sincere in his letters?

How does he know you're being sincere, too?

But what is he in prison for? Also, some people can certainly put on a kind persona to manipulate people or gain their trust in order to get in a position to do worse. So for sure you should be cautious about this, like how he is in the letters or whatever may not be genuine.

I came close to sex when I got my first boyfriend, but I wasn’t a teenager, I was 20, I was working at a disability workshop.

I came close after making out with and passionately kissing my ex-boyfriend Robbie inside his storage shed

He tried to initiate sex but I declined because I was an inexperienced teen at the time

As for Jerry, I am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise

I will go on the date with him BUT I will take a chaperone with me to ensure nothing goes wrong

If he tries to do anything bad I will immediately break up and cut all ties with him!

a woman that is a wizard? were you saving it for marriage for many years?

Yeah and marriage might FINALLY happen soon if Jerry turns out to be "the one"! !!

I am fantasizing about losing my virginity on our wedding night...