Trying to fit in, or not bothering

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Today I wanna ask something about weirdness and normalcy.

As an aspie i tend to stick out in a crowd of normies. I hate small talk. Cant feel belong to any social group. I care less about it (got used to it).

But something weighs on my mind. Im intelligent, not socially but iq wise, and wanna be successful in my special interest (make money out of it). But that may require involving more people and socialising. So, this kind of abnormality is a draw back for me. At the same time i dont want to lose the potential

In childhood and puberty i confronted with too many unnecessary and judging people, so at this time i have no desire or energy to meet new people. Trying to fit in and be normal is draining. Watching my life subside and losing any opportunity is depressing too.

What would you do in this kind of situation? Im not a native English speaker but i guess you got what im saying.

Can you pursue your thing online, instead of in person?
Would that create enough of a buffer for you to feel more comfortable?
Can you do it anonymously, or using your real name but no camera?

I suppose it would depend on how it would involve other people.

*If you are dealing with customers there is a direct pattern for working with them

*If you will be having employees, it will again be a defined relationship that you can set firm boundaries with.



I tend to stick to work discussions with my coworkers and that helps. I aways have something to talk about and it is generally productive. I don't have to do much small talk and when I do I can typically steer it towards one of my special interests

What special interest do you have that you'd like to make a career of but are being held back because of required social interaction?

Your narration pretty much describes my history. Fortunately I write for a living; no people contact required.

Had past jobs, though, working around people. Never fit in. Never fit in ANYWHERE at anytime in my life.

In college, though, was a group of Born Again Christians who kind of took me in (I wasn't as enthusiastic about Christ like they were), but I found it interesting that they more easily tolerated my oddness, but I knew they probably fought internally quite hard to kindly put up with my info-dumps (I wouldn't be diagnosed autistic till many years later). But it wasn't true friendship with them; just the novelty of "Hey, a group who acts like they accept me!"

Lifelong difficulty fitting in, e.g., volleyball groups post-college.

Thank God I have editorial and proofreading skills, allowing work from home. Will never go back to a traditional job setting.