Do you consider yourself friendly?

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I consider myself quite friendly, yet I seem to have trouble cultivating friendships, which are imprtant to me because I want to develop my social skills and build a network of dependable and trustworthy people. I just seem to have problems inviting people over,or going to events, and remembering to call them back unless there's something specific they ask me to do or to say. My grandma used to say I was "sauvage" (that's French for savage ). And if I go out to a bar or for lunch for example, I usually go by myself because I find it so much more convenient than to make an appointment to meet with other people and be stuck on their schedule; yet I realise that that's how you build frienships, by spending time with them...
Do you consider yourself friendly?

Friendly but slightly twisted.

I am very friendly.

Tim

Umm... in ways I used to be less friendly than I am now but also vice versa I used to have ways when I was more friendly than I am now. I've built more of an ego in myself... so perhaps in some ways I've grown some arrogance... but only to look out for myself.
The genuine nice qualities I'd like to think are still there. Some people think I'm a really nice guy. I've helped people out who're in distress but I've also avoided - for instance on something like myspace, if I'm going after someone, I get all paranoid if a girl comments me, so I try to avoid a conversation. If there's kisses in the message, I'll delete it. I know this might be paranoia lol but I'm trying to be very careful about treading a wrong foot.
I would usually help people out... a girl bulletined saying she's feeling down... in most situations I'd try to help... but because I'm unsure if she may comment me I haven't said anything... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I can't achieve my goals if I become paranoid...

But on a general scale I'd like to think that I'm friendly, but with very minor hints of ruthlessness there...

I consider myself friendly but others may not.

I am a really friendly guy and will talk to pretty much anyone.. they always have to talk to me first though. I will never go up to someone random and start talking. I always second guess what I say though and wonder if it made me seem stupid and am always afraid I sound like an idiot lol. I do have many people who consider me their friend though.

I think I am friendly but I feel bitchy sometimes.

i think im friendly, i talk to random ppl when nessissary, other times i avoid them, depends on the mood and what I have on my agenda. I always feel the pressure of time for some reason, even if im ahead of scedual, so if i have stuff going on i usually dont have 'time' do talk.

OP: indeed, i cannott stand making meeting plans with others, im always the only punctual one. Im always the only 1 to follow the plan, they tend to change the plans, be late or whatever, its kinda bad, but in some ways i see ppl as a hurdle, an obsticle getting in the way of stuff i need to do sometimes.

I don't think I'm not friendly but I guess that could be up to debate for some people.

I'm pretty sure I'm friendly, but it might just be that I like to be useful. I tend to just talk to people that look like they need a friend or I'm bored or they're doing something interesting. My friends had a hard time believing I had AS when I told them, but they were friends from school so I had to see them every day. I always get scared of going places with people I know that are nice, but not my friends, so that's not very friendly.

It depends really. I prefer as you say to eat meals alone except for dinner. I like meeting people for dinner. This is mainly because it's more convenient to meet in the evenings. When it's just lunch then you have to worry about getting back to work or class or whatever which in my case spoils my ability to enjoy the meeting.

I suggest you just think about the times that would be easiest or best suited to YOU, and then build up your social life around that. Try as much as you can to get things on your terms and you will be much happier as time goes on and the friendships grow.

Yes, I am friendly. Now f**k off.

Online i might appear to be some inconsiderate wannabe, but if you met me irl i probably would only say hello and be very nice.

I am quite friendly, unless I am in the absolute worst of moods.

I try to be friendly, but I'm not sure I really want people to like me. I find it very difficult to have more than three friends or so AND keep in touch with them.

It's easier to have only a few friends.

Basically... but I don't know how to approach people or start conversations.

I never 'connect' with people right away...

Once I open up... I can be friendly. And actually want to be friendly... I don't even know if it's anxiety that keeps me at bay. When I met people I am in such an observation mode... that I don't interact.

I think I give off the wrong vibes... that you can't be friendly with me.