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01 Dec 2023, 5:30 pm

... just because you are scared to be alone?



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01 Dec 2023, 5:34 pm

Why would I need others to make a spectacle of myself? :lol:


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01 Dec 2023, 5:37 pm

Never.



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02 Dec 2023, 1:41 am

I do a pretty good job of it on my own.


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02 Dec 2023, 1:43 am

I'm not scared to be alone, I'm alone 99% of the time anyway. It's being around other humans and seeing the way they treat each other and the world that's scary.



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02 Dec 2023, 10:06 am

So...the only folks who hang with you are...bullies who take you out in public...to humiliate you in public?



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02 Dec 2023, 11:21 am

No. Unless vocal stimming at work in front of coworkers counts....?


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02 Dec 2023, 1:09 pm

ILIKEbeing alone.


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02 Dec 2023, 1:26 pm

No, I’d tell them to go f**k themselves.



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02 Dec 2023, 2:28 pm

No. To me, loneliness is a miserable thing to be avoided at all costs, but avoiding it is a matter of finding good company, not company that would make a spectacle of me. And I'm not exactly scared to be alone, I just hate it when it gets chronic and depressing.

OTOH if I saw no alternative I'd take the risk that new people might make a spectacle of me if things happened to go wrong. At least I hope I would. But come to think of it, I've tolerated considerable loneliness rather than put myself out there. Hopefully I've learned my lesson, as the last round of long isolation was pretty depressing and the following reunion with tolerably like-minds was wonderfully manic. I'd forgotten I could be so happy, and after that demonstration of the difference I decided to do a lot to fix the misery if it happens again, even if it does mean taking a risk.

But really, who are these cruel people who are so eager to put others down? Is the OP overestimating the malevolence of the people he can be with, or has he just got stuck with a bunch of jerks who need replacing with better stock? If that happened to me I'd be sorely tempted to give them a damn good verbal kicking on my way out.