Do you often tell white lies about your life?

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I absolutely despise being asked about my life, so I tell white lies. Anyone else do this?

I don't.

Not even an exaggeration.
But everyone else assumes otherwise -- it's like they make the white lies on their own about my life.

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Generally, only to look out for the well-being of me, my family or friends. I don't like to lie to impress or fool others.

My gf and I have three kids. But if one of them is feeling super sh-tty in the morning (not sick, but maybe really anxious or depressed), we have no problem telling the school they are sick, so they can have a day off. I think we've all been there.

I know that's just one example, but I gather the white lies you are talking about are the ones that provide us privacy or save us from something we might see as embarrassing. And I think that's fine (especially compared to other, potentially hurtful, lies)

I tell white lies, but not often.

In Arkansas I've been known to pretend I'm a member of the Church of England. It explains why I don't attend their Pentecostal and Baptist churches. Explaining it with the truth (I'm a dyed-in-the-wool atheist and I see their religious views as mostly absurd) would risk hurting their feelings and making them dislike and marginalise me. But it seems that as long as you're some kind of a Christian, it'll do. And it's not all that far from the truth. C of E aren't scriptural literalists and they're relatively laid back about beliefs. And it doesn't come up much.

But that's an extreme and unfortunate situation, like being gay in Saudi Arabia might be. I'm prepared to lie to protect self, others, and animals. But as long as I feel reasonably safe, I'm much happier telling the truth.

I tell my parents little white lies sometimes. I never tell my parents about my problems.

I tend to downplay the bad stuff a lot, as I don't think people want to hear depressing things about someone they barely know. Unless I'm going through something at the time and I'm worried they might take it personally, then I might explain. But otherwise I say everything is/was fine or brush over most of it. I have a therapist to complain about those things if I need to. Or anonymous forums like this!

When I was little I used to lie a lot, and often for no good reason. It was almost like a compulsion. For example, if my mum asked me where I'd found a t-shirt and I'd found it in a wardrobe I might say I'd got it from the chest of drawers. Just really inconsequential lying. I still can't explain that. And I would dig in if I was challenged, I'd insist black was white. My kid does that a bit too.

I don't lie about my life now. If anything I'm too open and honest about it. People don't usually want to know the truth. If everything is going to s**t I will say so and people usually don't know what to do with that.

I'm very honest & open online probably due to the anonymity aspect. However I'm more closed off offline & sometimes not very honest. I got in trouble a lot in Elementary school & I was often assumed to be lying when I was telling the truth about things. It was partly related to my classmates bullying me & lying about it & partly related to others like my teachers & principals not being able to relate or understand my various issues. I figured if I will not be believed when telling the truth, I had nothing to lose by creating a lie to explain. I learned that a good lie can be easier to believe & understand than the truth.

As a kid & teen I mostly lied to avoid trouble or backlash when others were bullying me & I got blamed, to justify something I did wrong due to me getting confused, or to justify why I didn't do an assignment or other work that I was confused about or that just seemed overwhelming to me. As an adult I mostly lie about certain things related to gov benefits, sometimes to medical professionals in order to receive certain meds for issues docs don't think are sever enough to warrant those meds(I do lots of various research, in some ways I know myself better than docs do, & I strongly believe that adults deserve the right to make their own medical decisions), & I sometimes lie about things being OK because I don't want to go into things with various people.

Am often tempted to tell white lies about things, but I dont even follow through to actually do that.

But as someone above pointed out -folks project their own mendacity onto me all of the time, and falsely accuse me of lying.

One lady I used to work with would accuse me of having motives...that I dont have...for lies (I wasnt telling)...about subjects we werent even talking about. Would exhibit all three of those kinds of stupidity in the same one utterance.

I lie when I think it's necessary, but I don't like to and it's not natural for me; I have to put a lot of effort into it.
People usually believe me, although it helps that my parents think I never lie...

"One lady I used to work with would accuse me of having motives...that I dont have...for lies (I wasnt telling)...about subjects we werent even talking about. Would exhibit all three of those kinds of stupidity in the same one utterance."

I had a similar experience a few years back with someone that in hindsight I think was just very very insecure. But it really messed me up to the point where I started to second guess every little thing I was saying and doing to the point of burnout. It was a horrible situation.

I think people as a general rule assume everyone else thinks/acts the same way they do. So if you are someone that is generally pretty honest and straightforward, then you expect other people to act the same way and it's a shock when they don't. Whereas if you generally lie and manipulate people out of insecurity or whatever other reason, then you expect other people to do the same and will constantly question anyone who doesn't. So it's more of a reflection of that lady's motives that she treated you that way.

No, not about my life.
I tend to have the opposite problem of saying too much or infodumping, if I speak at all.
I might tell white lies like "I like your haircut", but that's not about my life.

Lies are too hard to follow up with ..easier to be honest ,, besides if I were honest, I fear , i would do something drastic, and end up leaving a trail of corpses,,
" Ask me No Questions and I will tell you no lies "
Besides like my life or lies in technicolour .. but do see things in shades of black and White ..