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so im in middleschool and i havent been like bullied before (idk what bullying is tho) but some kids bother me but im not sure if its bullying because they took my lunchbag one and showed me pornography and sat next to me (i tokd them not to then pulled their hair) and said i would burn in hell but its not an average occurence and its mostly done this friend group which mmakes me sad and i cried today because some stupid girls kept on talking to me and calling me their friend when i had my headphones on and i told them to stop speaking with me but theyy mocked me

I was hoping someone with more experience would respond to this, but I'll try to help.
I'm really sorry this happened to you. What you describe sounds absolutely like bullying. Even if it doesn't usually happen, it's still bullying. I would say you should talk to a teacher or someone else who can do something about it. If you don't feel comfortable doing that a parent could help you. Unfortunately the person you talk to might decide not to help, but you should keep trying. If people are doing that to you, that is not okay and the school needs to do something about it.

Hey so I’m in middle school too and that’s not just normal bullying, that’s like crazy bullying

WTF that's messed up. Yes that is bullying. I am a 47 year old NT woman. I am married to a successful aspie and I have a nervous ADHD 10 year old son. Here are some solutions for you:

1) Notice something the other kid does not have but you do and bring it up. For example, if you have two parents at home and the other kid doesn't, make sure to loudly tell someone how much you love hanging out with your two parents who love you. Then look at the kid. That's pretty advanced though.

2) If they show you something like pornography: LOUDLY say "W.T.F. WHY ARE YOU SHOWING ME PHOTOS OF YOUR MOM/DAD, BRO???" Loudly so everyone hears you and laughs at them. Don't curse. Say "W.T.F."

3) If they are taking your lunch, you find something about them, let's say the kid has red or blonde hair, you make an Irish joke, "SORRY, I DIDN'T BRING ANY POTATOES". If the kid is Mexican, "NO BEANS TODAY, FRIEND. SORRY." If the kid is black, "SORRY BUDDY, YOUR MOM JUST PACKED LUNCH FOR ME." You get the idea. Memorize these things and practice saying them loudly.

4) SLAP the table, look at their faces and yell "NO!" Other options are "DON'T TOUCH MY FOOD" or "DON'T TOUCH ME" Do not ever touch the other kid.

This was happening to my son, and these things were were the recommendations from the black belt self defense master married to my fitness instructor, and from the tough looking black teenager who works at the Long John Silvers where my kid and I frequent. My son and I are white Irish looking people and the kid bullying him was black, btw.

The words work for both males and females.

Not so sure of some of the above responses.
1. Is just cruelty escalation and has a fair chance of generating an enemy.
2. Is hilarious...tick on this one.
3. You risk normalising racism, and you may end up being someone you despise.
4. Yeah 4 is acceptable.

I'd probably lead with "Do you enjoy being a bully?", "What is it you like about tormenting people",
"They have special doctors for people like you"

Yeah...you're probably right. I feel angry when I hear of an autist being bullied. I want to the other person to be crushed. Probably going too far.

The single most effective thing to do as an autistic person, when talking to a bully is to look directly into their face. I will tell you why. Autistic people have less muscle movement than other people in their faces, and this is why your faces can look blank to us. We NTs have elevated abilities to detect emotion in the eyes of others, so if you look eyeball to eyeball with us, we are receiving all of your energy. Combined with the blank appearing face, this can look quite intense. What may feel like fear to you is hard to interpret to us and will be terrifying. Simply saying "LEAVE ME ALONE" with the direct eye contact may be enough.