If I have a nice house, will I get more social acceptance?

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My UPS driver job, with maximum overtime, gives me about $100-125k per year before taxes. In my area, new build homes are $400-$500k. I figured if I work all the overtime I can, I can qualify for one of those houses.

If I end up getting a nice house, would more people like me? I feel like having a nice house shows off to society that you are financially successful. Plus money attracts women.

In Connecticut, owning your own house is a sign of status. I bought an affordable starter home which was easily converted into a retirement home as my wife became disabled before she passed away.

Can we please not go here again?

If that's the point and goal without any wise up from yourself, you'll be easy -- and an easier target for love scams if you're looking for something a bit serious.

If you're the type of guy who aspires to hook up a lot, can you manage such reputation, risks and complications?
It's not even an average NT in a hook up culture can simply afford to.


Regardless; just wise up a bit.
Whether or not you gain confidence and luck in attracting women -- don't be too naive.

I’d like to buy one of those new construction houses. But they’re really expensive. I would have to move to a cheaper state.

Lolololololzzzz... but really , that was not the actual Question regarding ownership of a House .?

But in Real Life .. Direct Answer to this question on a house and Social Acceptance ,imho """ NO """
But occassionally genuine Gratitude, oddly enough , may get you some of that . And a Smile .
And discernment of character.

Why? Is it wrong? Are women more attracted to bums that want them to pay for everything?

No, but it sounds like men are.

That would not bother me if I had my own place & a high enough income to support the both of us. Then again I'm very used to not having much money & society negatively judging me for not being more productive.

That's reasonable, but not quite the same thing.
I'm tired of having women characterized as dependent freeloaders, gold diggers, and bums.

I've always supported myself as well as my kids, just like many women do.


To the OP - No, it won't get you social acceptance.
Who in society will know you own a house, anyway?
Will you walk around telling people?

I own a house and it hasn't given me any form of status.

It's important to note that the reason women may be like that is due to the men being in power. Women in lots of areas of the US get paid less than men for the same work. Plus there is no national family & medical leave policies & no national early childcare programs so lots of women in the US risk being out of work a long time if they get pregnant.

The problem is if women marry rich men and they break up, they're screwed.
The man can afford a hotshot lawyer and the woman / children will be destitute.
Women got wise to this and don't play with fire.
Most have their own money or are willing to go without, for their dignity.

I'm sure there are some freeloaders out there, just like there are freeloader men.
I've had horrible experiences with men who only wanted my house.

I hope the OP knows money isn't everything in relationships.

to be fair we don' know the OP's social situation. Perhaps in his social circle and/or list of acquaintances through friendship group/s and/or work he might be seen more favourably if he owns a house. As a 25 year old single person it is a big deal if you can host parties and have a place friends can crash over.

There's a bunch of space in the middle. There's mostly one sort of woman that places that sort of emphasis on wealth.

What do you mean by "there's mostly one sort of women ..." ?
Do you mean most women are that sort?
Do you mean there's only one small subset?
Whose wealth? - Their own, their partner's, or their combined wealth?

I owned my house at 23.
I can't say I ever had a party like you describe.
The most was about 8 relatives for my son's baptism.

If people are impressed by houses, so be it.
It's just not something I understand.

My 30 year old son lives here.
His GF of five years is more than happy to stay over.