What do YOU find attractive? Non physical only

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This is a thread with a very specific purpose.

Lots of threads here focus on desirable physical attributes, particularly the lack of them. Many people seem to feel that if they don't possess a prescribed set of physical attributes then they cannot possibly be attractive.

I'd like to encourage people here, especially if you feel your physicality is a problem, to think about the non-physical attributes YOU find attractive in other people and tell us about them.

Me? I like a woman with a strong sense of humour, the more absurd the better. I'm attracted to creativity, writers and musicians in particular. I like it when women are independent and hands on - one of the things that attracted me to my partner was that she taught me how to adjust the timing on my Mini's engine in the early days of our friendship. She's also pretty good with a chainsaw and once made a grandfather clock.

That's what I want to hear about: describe to me what you're looking for in a partner without talking about the way they look.

A nekoguchi personality.

Kindness and patience

Men who are humble about their achievements, and those with integrity. I like when men know what their values are and they aren't swayed by public opinion, peer pressure, or politics. Consistency and a defined set of ethics really do it for me.

I like men who can work with their hands to build or fix things, or play a musical instrument. Labour and hard work is good but I also understand if they're disabled and can't work. I don't care if he reads or if he's academic. If he does, that's fine but he doesn't have to be exactly like me. I'd rather we share a lot of laughs and we like the same music. Music fills a space so it's shared, whereas books are read silently. That's why I think it's important to enjoy the same types of music in the house, in the car, or at gigs.

Liking animals is imperative especially if we're going to live together. I'm not giving up my animals for anyone. Likewise it would suck if they were allergic or always sick when they came to my house.

Oh, one more thing. I watch how men treat the women in their lives - mothers, sisters, cousins, friends, and even strangers like wait staff or doctors. That shows me exactly how I'll be treated down the road, when the honeymoon wears off.

Nice thread!

I’m attracted to people who are open, open-minded, intelligent, empathetic, quirky, authentic, and who have a keen sense of humor because I love to laugh.

Since I want a partner in crime and best friend, having stuff in common, especially the big things, is really important to me. Being able to disagree in a respectful way when disagreements arise is good too.

Cockney accents

I can be attracted to seemingly contradictory things in different people so it's difficult to type a list out. It may be better for me to think from the opposite angle about personality traits I usually dislike & list their attractive opposites.

~Being accepting of me.
~Being sweet, nice & friendly to me.
~Not physically abusive.
~Liking lots of attention within a relationship & being clingy & needy with her romantic partners.

Kind and loving first of all. Understanding and tolerant. Smart, creative, and at least a little bit unconventional and quirky.

I'm attracted to people who do things. I.e. they find something(s) about this world interesting and throw themselves into it. Cynics wear me down.

Interested people are interesting.

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  • Funny
    
    • Intelligent
      
      • Outgoing
        
        • Athletic

What I would find attractive in a woman would be having an old fashioned sense of mannerisms in terms of speaking, how she dresses, and carries herself personality wise. (A modern day princess.) She's very humble, very easy to entertain, having actual hobbies of her own, and is intellectual. I could ask a random question, then that question could lead to hours of conversation.

Patience