Approaching someone in public

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Have you ever tried approaching people in public?

Ever had any success?
What was the worst experience while trying?

this is where I'm either uber-Nt OR its some type of superpower? not sure

I find I enjoy engaging strangers and am fairly successful in striking up a conversation.

Where i lack motivation is maintaining friendships.

I'm like this. I blame it on ADD. The impulse becomes action before I have time to feel awkward about it. When I slow down and think about how to engage people I get awkward.

Nope. Not me.

Since this question is in Love and Dating I assume you mean approaching a possible romantic interest.

I used to love hitchhiking.
I'd have to be desperate in the modern era, but when I was in my late teens I would get a train to the edge of the city, stick out my thumb and start walking.
Every car that picked me up was a test bed for conversational skills, meeting new people, BEING SOMEONE ELSE.
It was a forced interchange for a minimum duration where I could invent different approaches, use different language, pretend to be...almost anything.
When I arrived at my destination I sometimes turned around and started hitching back.
Every ride was the impetus for the next and generated all the adventures that created me.

Interacting with women is way different, but the courage I got from every hitch I employed to approach those that intrigued me.
When approaching anyone, once you realise that getting punched in the face isn't that bad, what have you got to lose?

Occasionally, yes.  When I'm near a group of men who are also waiting for their wives to come out of the market, I might strike up a conversation.  Otherwise, very rarely.

Oh! yes, I did not realise this is L&D (my bad). So approaching older females or females with children no problem, they don't seem to mind me, younger females find me creepy or don't understand the use of proper English being used (Alas I can't decipher social media slang).

I have had some success.I approached a woman for the first time in public at church and she gave me her number.I have also been turned down a few times after approaching women in public at church.

For me the question depends on what is meant by in public. I never approached total strangers for a relationship except on dating/relationship type sites. However I've tried asking out acquaintances in situations with some others around like at work, I worked retail so there were sometimes others around when I tried but not like right next to us. Approaching others in public has worked for a bit of my extended family members but I highly doubt that would have worked for me since I'm even more awkward in public situations around strangers.

Approaching people in public sounds a bit creepy

I know one guy who asked his friend advice about "Touching up women" in supermarkets

Suggest not taking what this guy does as feasible Jamesy. He needs friendly advice on how easy touching a woman without consent can land you in prison.

It's definitely wrong to touch women in supermarkets, or anywhere else, and never without explicit consent from the woman.

Jamesy needs to meet people outside of pubs in wee hours.

I have never done that, because anytime I think of doing it I just don't cause I am too socially anxious to say anything to random people let alone people I am supposed to talk to.

I've tried to tell him he should spend less times in the pub and take up a hobby or something, but to no avail.

I think its kind of his go-to place, he feels more confident with people when he's had a few pints.