Do you have courage?

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It's something I've known about myself that I am anxious and scared in general. This has made many aspects of my life difficult to handle. I'm not a big worrier, but I'm not brave and not good at handling things, from simple mundane tasks like having work done at the house to dealing with my emotions and upsetting setbacks and situations, especially dealing with other people, even if they are nice.

I grew up with anxious parents and learned to be afraid of everything.

I've been talking with my bf about developing courage. Do you think you can work on your courage and become braver? Or do you consider yourself brave?

I used to have an automatic freeze reaction to fear.
This let me get bullied frequently until year 9 when I kind of snapped.
It changed my response to fear, and I started courting danger. I started standing up to bullies and authority, became a reckless bike rider, skier, radio foxhunter, skater and pilot.
I certainly wouldn't label it courage... I think of it as perversity.

I am.


Not because I'm fearless or don't react with fear. But that makes it easier.

But because I react differently towards the emotion of fear.

I knew better than whatevers caveman days' primal threats does not reflect the true consequences of the modern day era.

The same can be said with scares and superstitions. I just react differently with fear.


Well, people around me well affirmed this trait around me.

My dad's cousin was a core memory of mine before I entered school.
Then there's whatever's my complex towards my parents and my sister.

Not to mention countless times with my classmates.
I volunteer to jump first. I go ahead in the dark halls first. Big scary bully? Ain't afraid to get punched and not afraid to throw any punch.


I dunno.
It can scare people sometimes.

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Ha ha, no...for sure I do wish I could build some though but, for honesty like no I do not think I have courage and not really sure how one acquires that. I guess in fantasy movies maybe you go throuh an adventure to learn about that but in real Life I am never going to get an adventure like that to teach me about the world.

I try and face my fears even when I'm trembling inside...I'm thinking this might mean I have bravado

I think I have courage. It takes a lot of guts to show my love for Germany and the 1940s in the progressive world of today.

I think you're brave

Often, but certainly not always.

I’m very timid offline, but I have demonstrated courage at key moments of my life.

I'm not sure about courage but I definitely have stubbornness...I think that sometimes gets the same result.

I just wonder (hope?) if one can somehow develop courage. Does it require facing adversity and overcoming it? Even so, my own adversity seems to have made me more scared. I feel like if bad things happen I am unable to handle them, and that makes me even more anxious that something might happen. I'd rather believe that when something comes along you deal with it, because you have to but also because you can.

Is it possible to learn to become more courageous?

I don't know how I learnt the trait.

Only that I observed that I have a lot of experience between the stark contrasts of fear and not-fear, whether rational or irrational.


And I was practically raised and socialized to have it.

Thus I ended up having more than one sources of courage than just the desire of being able to take opportunity or freedom from fear itself dictating my actions.
It's not just the desire to do right alone, it's not just attachment alone, it's not just faith, assurance and belief alone.

Also ended up with several approaches to straight up handling several types of fears whether overt and covert, and not-really-fear-but-it-will-lead-to-it.
No exposure therapy needed when I'm consciously facing it head on and figuring it out the abstracts of how such emotions and sensations influences my thoughts and actions.

And then being able to identify true courage from false forms like apathy, shamelessness, overall lack of fear, etc. another contrasts that I do experience from time to time.
It's not as simple as seeking safety and unsafety, but how one would perceive it.


The only times I 'act like a coward', is when there's something seriously wrong with me and it takes way more to scare or put fear on me.

Like having to deal with several things like overwhelmed while being seriously sick, head full of nothing but dissonance and doubt, too vulnerable, and just being over my reasonable limit in which I really can't and actually needed something safe, too tired to deal with unsafety because I have an innate sense of self preservation.


Else, my instincts in base can feel fear all it wants, but the reflex of my rebellious conscious and personality will go like 'lol screw that warning! The heck is it actually about??' and walk through it head on.



Unlike most autistics, apparently, my main problems with emotion isn't fear, but boredom and aggression.
The latter is a trauma response that's been recently solving rather quickly as I age now.

It's the former I'm trying to figure it out now, to a point that it will willfully put me into a direction of fear and anxiety just because.

And no, that's not courage.
That's boredom and stimuli craving because state of safety is boring.

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