Looking for some male fashion advice

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I've always had issues overheating. It didn't matter if I was underweight or overweight, I'd still sweat through my clothes. I don't have thyroid issues, and I don't have hyperhidrosis. I mostly think it's my anxiety giving me issues.

I also am very particular about my fabrics. For shirts, I've found that I don't like polyester-like material or anything that feels super silky. I've even purchased 100% cotton shirts that I absolutely hate. The only shirt I like is Costco's Kirkland Signature T-shirts. For some reason, I'm fine with most materials as shorts. I just generally don't like long sleeve pants as I don't like anything on the bottom half of my legs. I don't even like joggers or scrubs that much.

It's hard for me to figure out fashion, as I also value comfort. I've always just worn a T-shirt and shorts, and because I overheat easily, I always debate whether or not I should wear a hoodie (I find 20-30 degrees F my most comfortable temperature range). Lately, my new friends have been giving me s**t because I dress like a middle/high-schooler still (we're in a grad school program).

I really would like some clothing/style advice while navigating these issues.

How do bamboo t-shirts feel?
You don't have even a rough location to say what your climate is.
I'm not going to comment on style.

Oh... I didn't notice your join date.
Welcome to WP

Two things are needed in male fashion 1) awareness 2) purchasing/laundering/wearing.

It this point it sounds like you should put some effort into awareness. If you have no idea what is in fashion and out of fashion there isn’t much point to trying to change how you look in the buying and wearing department.

You also talk about sensory defensiveness. This complicates the wearing and may inform the buying but you still need to be aware.

Starting with awareness is key because, without a sense of what styles feel right for you (and maybe also resonate socially), changing up your wardrobe might feel like throwing darts in the dark. One way to start could be by observing men’s styles that appeal to you in media, whether that’s online, on TV, or even just people-watching. Not necessarily copying, but looking for ideas on what feels “in” and also aligns with your comfort preferences.

Your sensory defensiveness is a factor here, too, and that’s entirely valid. It means you’ll have to look for a middle ground—finding clothing options that align with what’s considered fashionable but also feel comfortable on your skin. For instance, once you’re aware of a style you like, you can focus on soft, flexible fabrics or tagless options that fit that style. Brands focused on comfort or sensory-friendly options might be useful to explore.

If you’re able to identify a few styles that feel socially appropriate but still cater to your sensory needs, it could be a game-changer. Fashion doesn’t have to be all about fitting in, but if it helps with feeling confident or comfortable around others, that’s a worthwhile goal.

It seems I have to toss in my two bobs worth on style too.

"Fashion" and "what's in" are for sheep.

Sure, social acceptability is relevant but "style" is what YOU think you look best in.

A couple of significant gals in my life (dated but didn't marry) were kind enough to give me some advice.

I ended up following a simple pattern. My bride tolerates how I dress; I won't claim she thinks it's great.

I'd suggest wearing golfing clothes.
They come in a wide variety of fabrics so you may be able to find something that works for you.
Many golfers play in the summer when it is very hot and need fabrics that will handle sweat.

They can be less expensive on Ebay if you don't mind country club logos.

It helps if the clothes fit well.
What they don't tell you on the what to wear shows is that they spend a lot of money on tailoring to make the clothes look good on the person wearing them.