double standards

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it appears that sometimes when someone else and i both allegedly made the same statement or action, i got a disproportionately significant punishment; while someone else got a small punishment, no punishment, or a reward.

for example:

1. Yesterday, as usual, I put my granola bar on the table in the locker room at work and got something out of my locker. When I got back, a coworker was eating it.

He apologized and said that he thought it was for everyone. Yes, sometimes someone puts free food on the table, but usually not single serving food from the vending machine.

He is in the same pay grade as me. I earn slightly above minimum wage.

I don't know if he has more financial dependents or financial obligations than me. He said he only has one job.

It makes me wonder if he was in a desperate financial situation.

He bought me another one and I didn't ask for it.

He's been nice enough at work (and plenty of coworkers have not been nice enough). I didn't want to make him an enemy.

it reminds me of the time when I was 21, (now 41) and I ate my roommates' food. Those ass holes had the nerve to tattle to the landlord and the landlord had the nerve to give me 15 days notice to move out. Even though the rental contract said 30 days notice. After going to 17 different apartments I finally got one and almost ended up homeless.

I know yesterday's situation was different, but I can't help but see double standards

Did not want to interact with the manager, supervisor, human resources, security or cops. (At least two standby cops on duty at all times at home Depot, s**t).
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2. a couple of weeks ago, a coworker and i were trying to load a heavy box. his hand slipped and (unintentionally) knocked me in the head. neither he nor i said anything about it. (i was not injured).

it reminded me of five years ago, in aikido. another customer and i were trying to do a technique, and i (unintentionally) knocked her in the head. the "instructor" had the nerve to come tell me "when you hurt someone, you have to apologize" and he asked her "are you ok?" and the "instructor" made a hugefuck *smoke and mirrors* big deal out of it. the "instructor" acted like he had never done anything bad or wrong before in his life ("holier than thou" attitude) and the customer did too.

in both situations, someone (unintentionally) knocked someone else in the head. when i unintentionally knocked someone else in the head, i got a hugefuck punishment. when someone else unintentionally knocked me in the head, nothing happened, s**t.
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3. in 6th grade, i wrongfully accused someone of stealing something. as a result, an entire stampede of junior high school rodents had the nerve to physically assault me at the bus stop that day. been thinking about it every day, and now 41. so i am afraid to accuse someone of anything, because when i am wrong, it's a f*****g disaster. and sometimes you could be more confident than justified by competence.

when i was 29, i was at my former "friend's" apartment and she left. her (former) boyfriend and i stayed in the apartment. i asked her boyfriend if i could eat something from the refrigerator and he said "yes". i ate something (tofu) from the refrigerator. one week later, that self-righteous lil b***h had the nerve to tell me that i ate her lunch, and she told me not to do that. she acted like i was fortunate that she did not report Petty Larceny to 911. i told her that her boyfriend said that i could eat (what she said was her lunch) it. she did not believe me or care. (maybe i should've gotten her boyfriend to sign a consent form that said that he said that i could eat her stupidass tofu.) later, i stopped interacting with her altogether and ignored her phone calls and emails. the "tofu incident" was just "the straw that broke the camel's back." that former "friend" had a condescending attitude toward me, and she didn't even realize it. that b***h had the nerve to tell me that when i did something she didn't like, she would tell me, and she expected me to stop, immediately, permanently, drastically, and cheerfully. i was like "what if you do something i don't like?". that b***h was like "tell me, and i will try to stop." "try?". when i told her i didn't like it when she jaywalked (besides, it's dangerous and illegal), that b***h had the nerve to tell me "people in (city) do it all the time!". (rolls eyes). and she *knew* that i was afraid of dogs, but then one time she invited me to her apartment, and then she told me she was dogsitting (they were NOT her dogs), and that we could "reschedule". what the flying f**k did that b***h think she was, a government agency? why should i have to "reschedule"? she could've chosen to decline to dogsit. she does NOT have trouble saying "no" (unlike me).

when i wrongfully accused someone of stealing something, i got a MASSIVE punishment. when someone else had the nerve to wrongfully accuse me of stealing something, nothing happened to her.

things like this make me wanna never interact with anyone again, s**t.
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plenty of other examples like that.

i do not even wanna think about it, s**t.