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Mikurotoro92
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24 Jan 2025, 6:39 pm

"My husband" or "my wife" instead of by their actual names?

Is this for security purposes?

Like how Japanese video game developers in the 80's and early 90's always used abbreviations instead of their full names to deter other developers from poaching them?

Could this be the main reason why a married woman always refers to her spouse as "My husband" or vice-versa?

To stop other people from stealing their partners?

What do you guys think?

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24 Jan 2025, 7:12 pm

Probably for the same reason why people might refer to their siblings as my brother/sister instead by name.

Because it's normalized.

Some cultures have labels specific for a bunch of relatives, like in anime it's common to hear characters use aneki/aniki or oneesan/oniisan to refer to their (older) siblings, and never by name.

A title can serve in place of a name, it doesn't need to have a deeper ulterior motive.


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24 Jan 2025, 7:32 pm

Because we're proud of our partners.

And I would always refer to an equal status person as "My (title), (name)."

Elder relatives were referred to by title only.

It's just what I've always done.


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