Does your partner also have ADHD and/or Autism?

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Around 7 years ago, long before I knew I was autistic, I was talking to a guy on a dating app. We were talking for two months before we actually met. During those conversations I asked him "are you autistic?". I think it might have been his love for Disney. Obviously I was ignorant. It was a bit of an inappropriate question. 6 years later, I get diagnosed with autism and then a few months after that ADHD.

He now suspects he has ADHD too.

I'm Autistic but neither my bride nor I suspected it until I was 64. Other than telling her my suspicions and on-line test score I did not tell anyone of my suspicions until I saw a psychologist for a formal assessment. I would never have said I was possibly Autistic
nor even strongly suspected it until I was formally diagnosed.

My bride is ADHD. She was diagnosed as a young child but did not mention to me that it was a formal diagnosis so when she told me she was ADHD I discounted it as an amateur assessment. We'd been married for almost 20 years before she mentioned that she had been formally assessed as ADHD when she was a young child. Since it was a formal diagnosis, not an amateur's assessment, I then believed she was ADHD.

My current girlfriend is very likely also on the spectrum & has ADHD & other various mental stuff. We met on this forum. I met my 2nd girlfriend on this forum as well & she had autism & social anxiety but I don't think she had ADHD. My first girlfriend had ADHD & dyslexia & we met on a forum for a common interest. I've been diagnosed with dyslexia & ADD since kindergarten & that's one of the reasons we connected.