It feels hard because I've seen people telling other people which then creates this self imposing pressuring voice in my head because I've heard from what other people say and taking them literally that the "30s are a time to be serious, you need to knuckle down if you want a partner if you're still single, you need to think about if you as a man or woman want kids and do it now and not in 5 or 10 years". Knowing about this stuff even makes me feel like I need to "hurry" but a part of me doesn't want to and the conflict just makes me feel unhappy. It makes seem that is what everyone in their 30s is doing but I clearly don't know.
I've even thought at times like giving up with dating because I feel like chances are a number of people even a bit younger now in their early 30s or late 20s are maybe already taken, got married, had kids or are single with kids. I'm also worried that if I were in a relationship I'd start being pressured to hurry when I clearly don't know what the person wants until I've met them and I know I shouldn't assume.
23 Mar 2025, 9:34 am
