In my former religion, it was considered laudable for people to give up on their hopes and dreams. Personal sacrifice was the topic of many sermons and articles. There’d often be examples we were supposed to look up to - like the one in which a woman gave up on her dream of being a violinist, so she could spend more time preaching. Pursuing secular goals would supposedly push people away from God and jeopardize their ability to achieve salvation.
My first boyfriend wanted to pursue a career in sports (he was very talented) but that was highly discouraged. My cousin wanted to pursue singing. She has a beautiful voice but that was highly discouraged. My dad had a full 4 year college scholarship. It was highly discouraged to go to college at the time (and still is for the most part), so he spent his life working in demanding, physical labor jobs. My brother is brilliant and should’ve became a scientist.
They are all living for an afterlife which will likely never come, except for my brother who left a few years ago. None of them were ever fully happy. It’s really sad. There’s just so much waste and unnecessary happiness in the world. I mean, not everyone who pursues their dreams is going to be happy, but at least they have a shot at it and/or can pursue a related goal that might add to their life in some way.
Then there are the many people who are gay or trans who don’t feel they have the possibility to live authentically because they’ve been led to believe who they are is wrong.
Overall, I think religion adds far more negative things to the world than positive things. That’s not to say that it’s all negative, though. My problem is more with fundamentalism, not that more liberal groups are completely free from problems.
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The people on the edge of the night