Looking to make genuine human connection

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Hey, I’m Anja. I already introduced myself a while back, but I wanted to share something a little more personal.

I’ve realized lately that even though I’m okay being alone, it would mean a lot to have some kind of regular human connection. Nothing dramatic—just someone to check in with once in a while, exchange a few thoughts, or talk about random things like life, or even funny internet stuff. Just... that feeling of being seen and emotionally present with someone.

I’ve had a hard time finding people who genuinely want to talk, even when the connection feels like it could be there. So I figured I’d just say this plainly: if anyone else feels the same, don’t hesitate to message me or reply. Even if we’re just loose online friends who say hi now and then, that’d mean a lot.

Also, if you like random or dark humor—or you’re the kind of person who laughs at something and immediately questions your morality—we’ll probably get along just fine.

Thanks for reading—hope you’re doing okay, and if you’re not, that’s okay too.

I love twisted humor!! !

It is always good to have a few friends. Making friends can be hard for us. To begin with about 50 percent of the people have Neurodivergent (ND) brain structures and about 50 percent have Neurotypical brains (NT). But some of us are on the extremes. This can make it difficult for us to blend into society.

You will find that NDs can become friends. But how can you tell the difference? Most NDs tend to hide. They pretend to fit in and be normal. In a way they are almost invisible.

I married my wife over 50 years ago and the best I can tell she was an NT. She moved to a different part of the world and had no friends. For her friends were extremely important. But she was alone. So I helped her find friends. We lived in a new housing complex and there were many people. So each day when I came back from work, I would take her and knock on one of the neighbors doors and introduce ourselves. Some would invite us in and we would have conversations. Actually, she would have conversations. All I had to do was do the introduction and she would take it from there. Around 50 percent of the people would invite us in and many became our friends. There is a secret to making friends. You need to do it in person and you need to step out away from your comfort zone and search for them. They are there.