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Hi, first of all I'm new to these forums. I'm John Prometheus Doe, or at least, I would be, had my parents chosen to name me that. Okay, I'm going to tell a story now.

Okay, So there's this girl I've had a crush on for a while (whom I shall call Jane, even though that is not, and to my knowledge, has never been, her name). Anyway, she knew that since I'm not very good at secrets somehow.
So, a few days ago I decided I would finally ask her out. The problem was, I didn't actually know how to do that. First I asked this one guy I know, and he told me to say "Do you want to go out with me?". I am, of course, stupid, but I am not that stupid. So, then, I waited for this girl I sortof know (to make a long story, I know her mostly online though we have seen each other at school) to sign on, and I asked her how. She suggested saying something along the lines of "I know this sounds weird, but I was wondering if you want to hang out or chill sometime... like, see a movie or something...?". The girl said "sure, but I'm in camp for two weeks but afterwards". (I knew she was going to camp already, but due to my absentmindedness I had completely forgotten). So I said "ok". Now, supposing in two weeks she hasn't changed her mind....and supposing my name was John Prometheus Doe and her name was Jane and that I have never gone on a date before...Can anyone give me any pointers?

So Long And Thanks In Advance For All The Advice (or fish)

Some Random Guy Who Likes To Pretend His Name Is "John Prometheus Doe".

EDIT (August 24th, 2005): Thanks for all your advice WrongPlanet.net people...None of it helped but thanks for it anyway! -John

Last edited by JohnPrometheusDoe on 24 Aug 2005, 8:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.

why don't you just say "so, how about that movie?"

good idea, though that's not actually what I meant. I meant pointers for on the date.

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John Prometheus Doe

oh. for the date... Just prey that she isn't someone who doesn't talk very much. Don't talk too much about yourself and don't try to make jokes because she might not laugh at them if they're as bad as the jokes that some people I know tell.

I respectfully disagree- make as many bad jokes as you can. The lamer the better! If they're bad enough she'll probably laugh because they're so terrible- although the real point is to lighten the atmosphere and make her feel more comfortable with you.

...or you could just sit there in an awkward silence. If that sort of thing works for you.

I agree with Sanity, I know someone who likes me because of my terrible joke-ing skillz.

Although, awkward silence is always fun!

It's true: I like ELSanity because of his terrible jokerisms!

I wish someone would like me for my poor joke making ability...

Well it's not really poor, it's more a hit and miss affair...

But still...


GA

If she's agreed to go out on a date with you, and you've known her for a while, chances are that she already likes you and you don't have too much to worry about.

I think going to see a movie is an excellent idea - no pressure to spend lots of time talking and making conversation - then go for something to eat afterwards, and the movie that you've just seen provides a ready made topic of conversation which makes that whole problem of what to talk about much less of an issue.

Good luck, I hope it goes well.

just dont use any chat-up lines whatever else you do...

anyway here comes the cliche- be yourself seriously don't try to be anything that you're not- she'll find out eventually and its a serious turn-off.

flowers are usually a good start....

Tell her in your worst redneck immitation "Yer' perrty...yous got good birthin hips"

No really, congrats...just be yourself...the more relaxed you can be the better you'll do.

Be polite..open doors for her etc. You don't always have to do stuff like that, but it makes a good impression on a first date.

If you need ideas for what to do...try to be origional but sweet...on my first date with my now wife went out for drinks, but then ended up on a playground swinging and sliding until 3 or 4 am just talking... it dosn't have to be anything elaborate.

Those really are the best dates!

Conclusion:

I go to her Xanga today, and she posts this long post about her ex-boyfriend and how she doesn't want to have a relationship with a boyfriend. And besides, she's, like, really popular, and I don't know if it would work out. I don't know what to do....


And yet she still wants to see that movie

Advice? Comments?

John

Treat it as a chummy friendship thingy and see if it develops over time?

Yes, a movie first and a chance to talk afterwards is a very good plan for a first date.



If she doesn't want to rush into a new relationship, that's probably a good thing, you can just hang out together and get acquainted without so much pressure.



I agree with PhoenixKitten. Time heals all wounds, and it's likely she will want another relationship after some time goes by.

movies good - less time 2 talk

um, ask her questions to get her talking about herself and listen and sound interested

and ask her about what she thought of the movie?

I have trouble thinking of stuff to talk about - so I make a list before I leave the house of possible things to ask a friend (or date) about and areas of conversation

But i'm really not the best person to ask about this! so if the advice is crappy sorry