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14 Sep 2007, 6:44 pm

So, I just met my second aspie (in real life) and I just feel inspired/excited to comment on something I thought I was hallucinating about from my first encounter with talking to an aspie in person....

Lil bit o background...

I am constantly being told i interrupt or abruptly stop a line of thought or wording and people either find it humorous or annoying and weird, depending on context ect... For example, I was a journal club today (im in a science program and we sit around and discuss scientific papers...) and it's a group setting where you just openly converse with each other. I swear, I interrupted people like 20 times over the course of an hour.... I did't talk over them or anything, I let the person continue and finish their thought... but I was getting the "weird" look from many of the people there, if that makes sense... i felt like a complete douche.... just plain awkward. it's hard enough when just talking with one person, but i felt it was all magnified due to the group setting.

But I must say, that talking with fellow aspies in a non-fourm setting is very refreshing! The interruptions go all around! Yet somehow, it doesnt deter or detract from the conversation at all! I know I've only experience this with two people as of now, but I definitely picked up on this more natural vibe. The closest thing I can describe it to is conversing with someone who is not a native speaker.... foreign people. Having known lots of foreign people myself, I have always appreciated a difference in the flow of languages and thus thought that I encounter from these different types of thought flows in people... And I don't know, but it was just really exciting!

Has anyone noticed anything similar?

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14 Sep 2007, 6:57 pm

I come from a family that is 60% Aspies, and when we get together, everyone constantly interrupts each other, changes topics sporadically, and laughs a lot. I think it is simultaneous shared streams of consciousness.

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14 Sep 2007, 7:07 pm

yeah the pic that comes to mind when i think of it is of estaurine waves kind of crashing together, but instead of canclelling each other out... they hit just right and then topple over in a perfect crest! very invigorating..... like catching that perfect wave and riding it out, wherever it may go.

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14 Sep 2007, 8:26 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

That sounds like a lot of fun! I still don't know where my AS came from. My son and I have it and possibly my brother, but I don't know of any other family members having it. Then again, I don't exactly have a close family.

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14 Sep 2007, 9:56 pm

Sedaka wrote:

But I must say, that talking with fellow aspies in a non-fourm setting is very refreshing! The interruptions go all around! Yet somehow, it doesnt deter or detract from the conversation at all! I know I've only experience this with two people as of now, but I definitely picked up on this more natural vibe. The closest thing I can describe it to is conversing with someone who is not a native speaker.... foreign people. Having known lots of foreign people myself, I have always appreciated a difference in the flow of languages and thus thought that I encounter from these different types of thought flows in people... And I don't know, but it was just really exciting!

Has anyone noticed anything similar?

Maybe that is because there is a kind of respect and understanding. Just today, I asked one person a SIMPLE question(requiring system name/user/password, file format/name/directory). I felt like telling her ****************SHUT UP*****************! After like 10 minutes of rambling on about the general theory, she told me ******NOTHING****** about the specifics I asked for. I told her:

"Do you realize you told me NOTHING I didn't already know? If I knew ONLY that it was a windows system, I would immediately understand that it all worked as you described? I only need to know the system name/user/password, file format/name/directory!".

That took FAR less time, but she still rambled. I suspect the average aspie would not have been so quick to inundate me with such dreck!

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14 Sep 2007, 10:37 pm

Wow. That would be great to sit in a room of Aspies.

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14 Sep 2007, 10:42 pm

tourettebassist wrote:

Wow. That would be great to sit in a room of Aspies.

I think so too.

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14 Sep 2007, 11:02 pm

A lot of times, when I was an adolescent, my siblings and I would stay up until late at night, in the summer, just talking! We were close in age, so had a lot of issues in common. I now realize that what made it so fun, that it wasn't straight conversation, but a lot of movie lines, improv, speculation and plain silliness. I miss that.

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15 Sep 2007, 1:44 pm

2ukenkerl wrote:

I suspect the average aspie would not have been so quick to inundate me with such dreck!

Depends whether or not that "average aspie's" particular interest was related to what you were asking. For example, when I asked my AS husband whether he would like a keyboard for his Palm and which one he preferred (the first question being a yes/no answer and the second being multiple choice) I got an extensive answer detailing all the different types of Palm keyboards, who made each one, where each one could be purchased and how much it cost, the advantages and disadvantages of each, what features would improve each one,... in the end (after a solid hour) I never found out whether he wanted one, let alone which one.

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15 Sep 2007, 2:06 pm

ChelseaOcean wrote:

2ukenkerl wrote:

I suspect the average aspie would not have been so quick to inundate me with such dreck!

I used to be the SAME way! Sometimes, I still am! That is an ASPIE symptom! :lol:

Maybe HE doesn't know if he would like any of the current otions out there. The second question was answered with only facts! :lol:

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15 Sep 2007, 2:11 pm

ChelseaOcean wrote:

2ukenkerl wrote:

I suspect the average aspie would not have been so quick to inundate me with such dreck!

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15 Sep 2007, 4:09 pm

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Hi! I have horrible social skills! I can never talk to anyone without boring them, and I'm so innocent compared to other teenagers. I always dominate the conversation and have an I.Q. of 187

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15 Sep 2007, 4:14 pm

19911 wrote:

Hi! I have horrible social skills! I can never talk to anyone without boring them, and I'm so innocent compared to other teenagers. I always dominate the conversation and have an I.Q. of 187

I'm curious. What are your interests, and what are you planning to do for work?

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15 Sep 2007, 4:31 pm

tourettebassist wrote:

Wow. That would be great to sit in a room of Aspies.

Been there, done that. Very surreal. A big family, 70% of whom were on the spectrum somewhere. No one was important to anyone else, no one - they were each wrapped in their own bubbles within a big, impenetrable bubble that was sort of called 'our family' which was completely exclusive. Very sweet, charming individuals - but all on their own little planets, none of them connecting with each other really, really.

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15 Sep 2007, 5:48 pm

lupin wrote:

tourettebassist wrote:

Wow. That would be great to sit in a room of Aspies.

Sounds just like my family. I'd say most of them are on the Spectrum, because they are indeed on their own little planets. What really hurts is how they will let years go by before they feel like communication!

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15 Sep 2007, 10:48 pm

Hi! My name is Nicolas Kimball Palleroni. I live in Seattle, WA, but now I attend a college'prepatory school in the Santa Barbara Mountains of Southern California, known as the Midland School. However, I have only two friends, and they{re both in other parts of the country, and no one to tlak to about my special interests )Mathematic, Philosophy, Law, and Meterology. I wish to become an environmental lawyer when I grow up, and remove the poor reputation of corruption and self'gain, attributed to individuals of that career path )excuse for my highly pedantic speech, and for the typing errors! I never wish to marry and am attracted to no one. I wish to live with my mother, and practice in Seattle, once I have completed my education. I am also a very good student.

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