What's wrong with light touch?

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I keep reading aspies don't like light touches and they prefer firm touches. Well I am just the opposite. I dislike firm touches because it feels weight is being pressed down on me and it also feels I have something heavy on me. But I like light touches because they feel so soft and good. I don't know how to describe the feeling.

So why do you like firm touches and dislike soft ones?


Only time I would accept a hard touch is if my muscles were sore, then it feels good to have firm touch on it.

i personally like firmly touches coz they are calming..its same that most of aspies like to sleep so that they feel pressure...it has calming effect though i dont know why

To me, light touches, or being tapped (Like when someone lightly taps your arm to get your attention) makes me itch. It's a skin-crawly feeling or something, like I wanna itch my skin off. Firm touches, like a massage or whatever, are just fine and even pleasant.

For me, a firm touch feels like an assault. Gentle touches are felt as kindly... gentle.

I also prefer motion to the touch... stroking, etc. Just holding hands starts to lose that feeling of active touch, where occasionally twiddling fingers with my hand-holding partner give that active "still there" feeling.

Kinda' weird, eh?

Of course, any touching from someone without a close, personal bond is felt as TOTALLY icky!! I hate the casual hugs doled out at church, etc. Blecch!

I find light touches such as a stroke on the arm as very painful. It's really weird, but it causes physical pain to me. I once read in an old book on dyslexia that dyslexics have this response.

I like strong hugs from certain people. They have to be friends, family or people I like though. I've met a few people that hugged and even kissed me on the cheek the first time we met and that kind of interaction I did not like. I could never live in one of those European or Middle Eastern countries where they kiss on the cheeks as a greeting.

I don't however like anyone getting on top of me whether its was in Judo class or lovemaking as I dislike the weight of someone on me. Makes me have trouble breathing. My response to having someone on top of me in Judo was to cuss excessively and this got me in lots of trouble.

For some reason, light touch, tickling, being prodded, poked or nudged, brushed against etc, unless by someone I like a lot (and even then I am not that keen) is just not tolerable. It usually brings instantaneous anger and/or irritation.

However, a good, tight, firm hug from someone I trust seems to make me feel grounded and safe.

I do not like anyone on top of me either, makes me feel I am suffocating and trapped. I do not like being on top of someone else either.
I rarely like my hand being held too, that does not feel all that right unless it is tight and strong and someone I am coupled with.

The only light touch I might tolerate is someone playing with my hair, which seems to bring me instant calm generally.

I hate light touch, it feels like pins and needles for me. Firm touch makes me calm and relaxed. I always say the best hug is a bear hug.

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Neither. I don’t find traditional massages very relaxing either.

What I do love is when the barber runs the electric razor down the back of my neck. That feels so good I could melt. Too bad they only do it for a few seconds. Unfortunately I can’t do it to my self with the same effect. Someone else has to be holding the razor to get the good vibes. I’d pay to have someone run the electric razor all up and down the back of my neck and between my shoulder blades.

Marshall, I think I know what you mean about the electric razor. When I was little, sometimes teachers, or adults, would fuss over me and I would get what I used to call the "flattered feeling". It was very calming and relaxing and would happen at the most unusual times, but mainly when someone was focusing on me, or combing my hair, or helping me do something. I likened it to the nature specials of baboons grooming each other, they looked very relaxed and I think they had the "flattered feeling".

Or when you rub a dogs tummy and they stretch out.