This is to all of my fellow aspies out there who are single. It's not the end of the world for you and there still is hope for you. I was diagnosed with asperger's in 10th grade, and I'm 21 now. I have to tell you all that in high school, I was not accepted by anybody. I was an outsider. For the most part I liked it, except for the ridicule and torture the other kids put me through. The other part I didn't like about it was being single. I'm sure all of you know what it's like to be single in high school and look around seeing couples everywhere you turn. It makes you feel lonely, it sure did me. Of course I had crushes and little friends that I liked, but I never had a girlfriend of my own.
It actually wasn't until November of '06 that I actually found true love. I know it sounds like a fantasy to call it that, but that's what it is. The story goes like this. About two weeks into November, I decided I'd take one last look on Cupid.com to see if anyone new had made a profile. I had already been on the site for about 2 & 1/2 years and I figured this one last time would actually be the last time I tried it. But as I was browsing, I came across the profile of a girl who had just became a new member a week earlier. She was still in high school and had just turned 18. I got her IM and began talking to her online, just as friends at first though. She and I instantly connected and about a week later we met in person at her school. It was a mutual meeting of only 15 minutes or so, but it was enough to meet and talk for a bit.
Later that night she and I talked more about another possible meeting. It was then she decided that she wanted me to meet her parents. Time for me to make a good impression. Two days before Thanksgiving, it was a tuesday evening, she and I were talking online yet again and at 10:12 pm on Nov 21 (I'll never forget it) is the day we agreed to officially become bf/gf. Three days later is when I went to her house to meet her parents. I can honestly say I was nervous as hell, but honestly, who wouldn't be when meeting the parents of your significant other (unfortunately guys especially have to be well behaved, one screw up and her father will kill you). But the evening went well and at the end, she and I had our first bf/gf romantic touch, it wasn't serious, just a loving hug.
On our next date, I picked her up from school and we went to the mall to see Happy Feet. There was time to walk around before the movie actually started and so we did. This was the day we had our first kiss. I'll never forget it either. We were standing in a corner of the mall, near the inside entrance to Target (not a real romantic place but it worked). Today is now October 21st, her and I are celebrating our 11 month anniversary, and this coming friday, on the 26th, we will be officially engaged for four months.
So to all of you guys and girls out there who are thinking you'll never find anyone, be patient, your time will come. Ladies, a the trick for you is to be open and not be so picky. You may have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince, but he'll come to you. Guys, for you, don't be so anxious to find a girl, just be slow and calm. Be yourself, but also be a gentleman at the same time. If you've ever heard the expression "You get more with sugar than with vinegar" it applies to this situation in most cases. Sure every now and then you might find a girl who's into the "bad boy" type, and she may be, but she's still a lady and would every now and then like to be treated like one. It's not all about sex, it's about an emotional connection between your two hearts. My girl and I still haven't had sex yet, she wants to wait until marriage, but I'm fine with that. So bottom line, girls, don't be so fickle and guys don't be such horn dogs.
Alex and Katie, I'm glad I was able to meet you two this weekend and I'm glad I learned about this site. And if any of you need romance advice, feel free to ask me anything you like, I'll most likely be able to help in your situation.
Sincerely
Dan