Relationships and travelling

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I am a traveller myself and I love my lifestyle. I have lived in 4 countries in 3 years time and soon move again to country nr 5.

Now what I am a bit confused of. lately my desire for romance has grown while my erotophobia (although still existing) has been better lately. I would be keen on having a girlfriend but I also don't want to stop travelling. I want to stick to this lifestyle for at least another couple of years, live in a few more countries... Having a permanent home and family don't interest me at all.

Does anyone have any clue how I would be able to find a girlfriend who is willing to join in the travelling and moving around? I know there's enough women having the same dreams in life and having the same lifestyle, but how to find them? On one hand I will need to start approaching girls if I want romance to develop, on the other hand I am a bit afraid of falling in love with a girl who does not want to travel (and that would not make any sense at all because I am not willing to change my lifestyle just for romance, it is not worth THAT much to me).

Does anyone know if there are dating sites for travellers or if there are places where I could look (for example hotel bars, bars frequented by tourists and bagpackers or so...)? Any suggestions or advice?

PS: I am very determined for the continued travelling lifestyle so I am not really helped with advices to approach any random woman. I would like a girlfriend but it is no priority like travelling is. Settling down does simply not interest me and I don't want to sacrifice my travels for anybody. If I'd meet a girl that wants to join however she's very welcome. I met a few traveller girls already but unfortunately they had a boyfriend they were travelling with!

Are you talking about a long-distance relationship?

Tim

I don't know of any dating sites that are specifically for travelers... however if your priority is traveling I'd do it the opposite way. Find a site for people who like to travel and share traveling stories... then locate the women who are actively traveling in their lives, not just taking vacations, get to know them and see if you find one you like. Maybe you two could even meet up in a new country or something. But if traveling comes first the best way to find someone with a similar priority is a special interest traveling site... don't know how you find them but if they have them for things like stamp collecting there are probably some around.

Also, be sure to be clear on what you think your time table is for how long you'd like to continue traveling. If it's very off from what the lady wants it will cause rifts sooner or later. Last piece of advice, while I'd definitely be upfront that you want to continue traveling... try not to make it sound like you'd find a relationship unimportant by comparison. Be honest that you're not ready to settle down, but telling a girl "you're not worth this" won't come off well no matter what the "this" happens to be.

You'll certainly meet girls while you're traveling. That is part of the fun.