How did you learn to trust people?

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How did you learn to trust people?

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I didn't

Trust is earned. I find it really hard to trust people. The only people I really trust are my two good friends. It took me many months to get over that feeling they were going to dump me in the s**t. They stood the test of time so I’m grateful.

It is funny. I’m not sure why we have got the reputation of being over trusting. People treat you badly you learn quickly.

However being more open and trusting is more indicative to making friends. So I have learned to have a superficial level of trust for general purpose and an iron curtain for personal stuff.

I think my defences are too strong. I find it really hard to get close someone, but want a relationship. Time is a healer. Still I have to work on my time frame. It is ok for my friends, will need to improve for something more.

When I say trust comes with time, you have to stick with that uncomfortable feeling until it fades. That is if you think the subject is worth it. Pre-emting rejection you will not learn anything from it.

I don't da only person i trust is my mum as she understands my AS n has look after me for all of my life.

Trust is very hard to attain in this world. Generally you have to build it over time. I would be very cautious with people until they prove themselves.

I don't trust most people. There is one person I trust and it took years to reach that point.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that I'm actually a very trusting person, probably too trusting. If someone I have known for a little while says they will do something, then I generally think that they will.
However, I guess that the trust issue depends on you as a person, and is related to how much you can rely on someone. If you have been able to trust someone with a small thing, chances are you will be willing to trust them with something more important the next time.

It's very difficult for me to trust people. For some reason though, I still get hurt and disappointed when they let me down.

i trust only one person. my first year of school i fell for every trick played on me. I trusted everyone and when i was bulled and people stole things from me i thought i was to blame. Then i learned never trust anyone until they prove that they can be trusted.

My CPN says I have not given him a chance. I don't trust him because he thinks he has a right to know everything about me. He thinks he understands Asperger Syndrome and me but he does not. Only someone who has it can understand how hard it can be to "fit in" and how good it feels to be totally obsessed with things that interest us. He has not known me for a very long time and he has formed a view of me and it feels that he degrades Asperger Syndrome because he thinks he understands it. I don't think that i even understand Asperger Syndrome fully. I just know how it feels to have it.

I think its good not to bent to pressure from people who try to make you feel bad for not trusting them, that is the first sign that they should not be trusted.

Theoretically, a person is supposed to learn how to trust in her/his infancy.
Most people don't remember their first year of life, so this question is actually quite hard to answer.

I kept getting into situations where I had no choice but to trust another

Beyond my wife, immediate family and friends I have known since my childhood, I have ZERO trust for members of the human race.

There's only about a handful of people that I have ever truly trusted and all but one (my fiancee) are members of my family.

I still find it nigh on impossible to trust people... and it's a big problem that I am almost unable to throw my trust to someone I aim to get with.

I can't do it.

I just learned over time that not everybody is out to get me. After all, if that were true, they would have gotten me already. So now, I go with my gut feeling; if someone sets off a red flag in my head, I stay away from the person, even if I can't logically pinpoint the reason. However, the quickest way to turn off my trust permanently is to say the deadly phrase "Trust me", or worse, tell me to relax.

I trust people to an extent. I trust they will breathe and eat.