I'm having a really tough time

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I have a really tough time making friends at school I feel like most of the time I don't have anyone to sit with at lunch. I just find it really hard to communicate with people I only have 3 people in my life right now that are the most important and that is my boyfriend Brian and my best friendCasey and Katie. I can't seem to make any new friends though. I wish I had more friends really. Its just so hard for me to make new friends.

Remember, it's better to have 3 close and great friends than 30 rubbish friends.

I can't remember who it was who said "he who has 200 friends has none"

Amen.

Though, myself, I think four or five close people who you can talk to propperly is a good minimum for stability's sake. ..


Perhaps, try to find others with common interests? Or try to adopt other loners. . .often they are the coolest people.. .

I've only ever had one friend, but we've been friends for more than ten years.

I had the same problem growing up. What I would do is this:

1. Try not to look needy. People aren't going to want to be friends with people who look pathetic and sorry. I say this because they want friends who will lift them up, not bog them down with their own emotional baggage. That's the brutality reality. And the ones who often do befriend such people are the types of individuals that you may not want to have friends since, while there are those who truly feel bad for those in such situations, there are many others just seeking someone out like that so that they can take advantage of them.

2. I would get involved in extracurricular activities at your school. That would introduce you to new people and perhaps you could have lunch with them.

at least you have 3 friends. I didn't have ANY friends in high school.

I have a couple of close friends and various others that I get on with, a lot of people who have ‘loads of friends’ actually have nobody who they can call a true friend. In school I didn't have friends for the most part and I never reciprocated friendship. In fact, I know what you talking about with the canteen. When I was doing my A levels I never ate in the canteen. I would go once a week to the spar and stock up on junk food. I spent the majority of my time in my room when I wasn't in lessons. I did a similar thing when I was in 2nd and 3rd year of university.