Girl making advances and asking inappropriate questions

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On Wednesday I met a girl who quickly began to talk to me. She began by asking me if I thought she was attractive. And I asked her why. She responded by saying she wanted to go out with me, but when I said she didn't know me (as she said that within ten minutes of me meeting her) she said that's why we should go out so she can get to know me better. From there she asked me to draw fallic symbols on a sheet of paper. She also asked me if I wanted a blowjob from her and showed me a condom wrapper. I asked her why she was asking me these questions and she responded by saying she wanted to have sex with me. She kept asking me if I wanted a kiss from her and I said no. Since I have never met her i thought at first that it was just a joke. But this line of questioning has continued for three days and it is making me unconfortable. Just today she kisses the window that I was sitting next to (she was outside and I was inside) then entered the building I was in and asked me If I wanted to kiss. I said no. What's up with this situation, and how do I deal with it. Should I ignore or tell her if it continuesd Ill have to report her to the office?

just tell her that you are not interested, if she carries on and disregards your wishes then report her.

State clearly that you're not interested. And keep gently explaining that until she realizes it ain't gonna happen.

I assume you don't want her. But if so, I can't help you. However, I strongly advise that you shut this person down completely -- she's obviously up to something.

Either the girl is seriously disturbed or she is up to something bad, like perhaps trying to make fun of you in a roundabout way. Do as the guys already stated.

But don't wait to report her. Do it now.

Yeah, I agree with all of the above. She's bad news. And if she is trying to make fun of you, she's super mean too. Don't engage with her, is my advice. In any way. Just walk away while saying, clearly, "leave me alone now, please".

This definitely sounds sketchy. Don't agree to anything she offers, no matter how tempting it may seem. She's trying to set you up, so that she can humiliate you really badly. Tell her politely but firmly to stop talking to you, and don't even thing about touching her. Make it clear that you're not interested in anything she offers. There's a famous rule: if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. And that means don't take the bait she's setting up for you. You might even have to use some self-deprecation. Say something like: "with my looks, your offer has to be a joke!"

I agree with everyone's advice, except about reporting her, but that's just because I'm a firm believer in the "no snitching" way of life. I think it shows more strength of character if you handle conflicts by yourself, without resorting to authorities. Anyway: She might be doing it just to irritate you, so simply ignoring her may be the quickest way to make her lose interest.

(I haven't been in many situations like that before, so don't take my advice too seriously. I'm just saying what I would do.)

heres another good method, RETURN TO SENDER this is when she asks an inappropriate question, ask it back to her see if shes offended or answers and ask her why she thinks of asking such questions.

sometimes aspies (not saying all aspies) dont really know when and were its ok to ask such questions of sensitive nature hence this happening

I had something like this by text but not quite explicit. It is probably a dare, a windup or to find out whether you’re gay. Some people get a kick out of it. It make them feel good to humiliate someone.

I know somebody who asked my friend in front his now wife then fiancée whether she could have sex with him. But this girl suffers from psychosis and mania so doesn't have a firm idea of reality. She came on to me too, and rang me in the middle of the day really manic. Thing is with this is it changes really fast so she may like someone and then ring up saying that person is plotting against her, etc. So if that girl is just doing the same time and again it is probably not be psychosis, though I could be wrong.

I disagree with the "no snitch" policy. I never snitched in high school, but looking back I wish I had snitched in a few situations. One of those situations did involve a popular girl making passes at me when I wasn't the least bit interested. She leveraged that popularity, whining to her friends who would then keep harassing me about it. I didn't want to get caught up in the "in crowd" and all its crap, and I'm sure Miss Popular was scaring away the types of "geek chicks" that I would have been interested in. Another thing Miss Popular did was jump to conclusions regarding my sexual orientation and spread rumors.

Look, yes it is honorable to take care of things on your own... when it's reasonable to think you can handle it yourself. In the above situation, I was up against Miss Popular and her whole frickin' social network. It would have been better just to stop by the principal's office and have her called in to explain herself to the principal.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this kind of crap doesn't end with high school. Sexual harassment and other bullying is alive and well in the workplace. If you're shy and attractive, you're a target.

The no snitch 'policy' is the most ret*d thing ever. Always do what will be the best option for you first. You owe that girl no loyalty whatsoever. It is probably best for her that she does get caught as it happens.

Guys that assaulted me. 6 months. ABSO. Fined. Not problem where I'm standing. Am I worried about them coming after me? Nope. They have no possibility of finding me. They are just a couple of crack heads. So there is root cause and all that but think about all that stuff after don't let that cloud your judgment on the day or you could end up dead.

If someone attacks you and you can poke their eyes out, DO IT. If you have enough opening to run away, DO IT. It is your well being that you should be focusing on not theirs.

Tell her that you are not at all interested in her or anything she offers and she shouldn't bother asking again because you're only going to say no.
And if she continues - well, screw the no snitching policy - tell somebody. Her advances are not only making you uncomfortable but I also wonder about the girls intentions. Very few people just offer themselves like that out of the blue and in a random context, so I think there's something fishy behind it.

I am wondering if she is not the type that will say something like that you forced her to do something sexual with her and get you in trouble so she can sue you to make lots of money. Some women do do that. I would talk to authorities immediately, as in now. They can do a background check to see if she has pulled this, if so, this can be entered into evidence to hopefully clear a past victim or if she moves on to the next guy and he falls for it, this will be on record and discredit her. So, it's not only thinking of yourself, but you must think of others as well. They need to background check her to see where this could lead. Be suspicious, very suspicious. Or if this is a tick, she could get into trouble. A lot of times people will play tricks on other people and to be quite frank, aspies are prime targets for tricks. People need to be taught a lesson. Report her now. It's the only safe thing to cover your own ass and others as well.

The guy's in high school.

Unfortunately, I have to agree with others that she might be playing some sort of trick on you. High school can be hell, especially for Aspies and other "misfits". Tell her to f**k off and leave you alone.

On the plus side, girls like that usually end up looking ragged out and married to used car salesmen, so don't let it bother you too much.

Tell your entire school and hometown about it and she's going to be the local slut for the rest of her life.

So? She could still be looking out to say some untrue statements so she can sue or something.

Though, a part of me wonders what she is really up to. I hope you find out and tell us. If it was pranking, some get you in trouble with the law plot, or she really has a crush on you and is being ... weird.