does anyone else have impulse control issues?

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I just majorly screwed up at another site by posting a video I really shouldn't have. It was that one of the two women doing really disgusting stuff.

Anyway, I was hoping that if someone here has had any luck controlling their impulse control issues, please let me know how you did it so I might be able to adopt your technique.

I'm usually good at this, but sometimes I do screw up and I end up feeling bad for doing it.

so, how do you do it?

I want people to like me and want to be my friend instead of always scaring them off with some of the really off-the-wall stuff I spout. I especially want those guys at the hobby forums to like me because they're into the same stuff I am.

I have problems with it too, but I do have a few plans in place that keep some of the stranger stuff down.

Number one question to ask yourself is: Does anyone care about what you're going to say?
Number two: Do they know you? And if so, how well?
Number three: Are we talking about it?

What I do in class is I only let myself say the things that I <i>really</i> want to say and I keep down the ones that are just cool (to me).

And I'm still practicing, but I am starting to get better.

Imagine someone you know in real life, someone you like and respect, and picture his or her reaction.

I have impulse control issues too. It has led to major heartache in the past.

More recently, I was reminded of said poor impulse control when I started hearing about that nasty video of the two girls and actually watched it. I know in another thread I tried to act like it was no big deal, but in actuality I almost vomited.

For me, it's not that I cannot understand what's appropriate or not... it's stopping the impulse from being triggered.

Sometimes it happens so fast that I just can't stop it. I may not even realize what I am doing/saying is going to have a negative impact/reaction until it comes back to me.

One thing I have recently discovered is the emotional aspect of my impulsiveness.
If my mind gets EXCITED about an idea, it is likely that I will act on it immediately... or, impulsively.
If I can catch myself getting those early 'excited' feelings, then sometimes I can recognize where I'm heading and stop.

(If you knew how much stuff I just deleted... you'd thank me... )

I'm just going to stick with the above idea... try to figure out what happens with you just prior to your impulsive actions.
Once you can recognize the triggers or feelings that precede the behavior, then you should be more successful at stopping them.

It works for me anyway.... some of the time

I know what you mean... I ended up getting myself banned from yahoo answers for posting a question that was slightly inappropriate (sexual health related, a little too graphic). I think suspending me rather than giving a warning was overly harsh...still I acknowledge that I shouldn't have done it.

It is hard to do, but with experience and age it gets easier. I basically try to be deliberate in what I do. It does not always work correctly. Sometimes it happens before I can even think about it, but this has gotten better as I got older. I believe that I have learned from my past indiscretions.

I thought I did - especially with respect to purchasing books. However, the Lexapro seems to have taken most of that away.

Yes, I have the same problem (not about dubious videos, though! )

But often I just "have" to do something I know perfectly well is inappropriate.

e.g. during my last week in a temporary job I posted three really trivial query notes (one of them was "what does this mark mean?" when it was obviously just a random pen mark!)

Like it was "I've wanted to do this ever since I got here - since I'm leaving now anyway it doesn't matter what they think of me!"

I have trouble filtering what I should and should not say to people about myself. Often times it manifests in some of my blogs. I tend to get too personal. I have gotten in trouble.