On being your own person

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This is a little thing I wrote when I had enough.

Me: I’ve a problem. People hate me because I can’t help being my own person.

The Other: You’re not hateful. I love you. I will solve your problem. Just follow me.

Me: I can’t follow you. I’m my own person.

The Other: f**k off, I hate you!

My personal solution is a poem attributed to the Ute tribe:

"Do not walk before me, I may not follow.
Do not walk behind me, I may not lead.
Walk beside me, and be my friend."

Hm... Interesting...

You forgot the last line, which is important:

Me: I feel sorry for you; it is your loss, for in being my own person, I have much to offer that you will not find elsewhere. Good luck wallowing in your hate; for in doing so, you validate that in being my own person, I am a better person than you.

Greantea, I like you because you are your own person. But why does being your own person seem to involve so much worry about what others think of you? People who are inalienably their own person and spend too much time worrying about others having issues with this will invariably drive themselves to despair and madness.

Good fortune,

- Icarus is his own person too…

Icarus, I prefer despair and madness over hunger and destitution. Where I live you have big chances of being fired if you're seen eating alone frequently - which I have to do because nobody will go for lunch with me.

GreenTea , you might find this amusing . A very nice lady works in my department as a clerical assistant to the Dept. Manager . She seems completely normal . Loving husband ; nice home ; beautiful daughter , who is displaying early signs of AS (how do you break that news to someone so nice?) . However , she has to eat alone because the sound of other people chewing drives her completely batty . Side note: you won't believe the things you hear if you are a good listener with a large helping of discretion .

Suddenly my quirks seem completely normal .

A bad day fishing is better than the best day at work (unfortunately)

Admittedly it takes a bit of experience to not care what other people think but it pays off in the long run. The main point is to learn to think clearly and not be frustrated by all the other people who don't.