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Mw99
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22 Nov 2007, 10:38 pm

NT women seem naturally attracted to jerks. Are aspies the same way?



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22 Nov 2007, 10:50 pm

Well I can only speak for myself and say "no." I've always only been attracted to the good guys.



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22 Nov 2007, 10:57 pm

SpaceStace wrote:
Well I can only speak for myself and say "no." I've always only been attracted to the good guys.


What do you call a "good" guy?



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22 Nov 2007, 11:06 pm

Mw99 wrote:
What do you call a "good" guy?


Well the easy answer is "not a jerk". It's hard to explain, but I like men who are considerate, thoughtful, kind, all that goody-goody stuff. Humble. Someone who does the right thing rather than take the easy, selfish way out. When I see a guy stand up for someone who can't stand up for himself, it's like love at first sight. And when I'm dating a guy and he does something "wrong" like steal or belittle someone or be racist, I'm immediately so turned off I can't even look at him any more.

But I'm not normal. :D



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22 Nov 2007, 11:16 pm

Some aspy women are so innocent that I think it's easier for a lying piece of garbage to exploit them.


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22 Nov 2007, 11:52 pm

NO!! ! At least, not in my case. I tend to go for the good guys. I found and married me an aspie guy :)


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23 Nov 2007, 1:05 am

Definitely not. Only I get to be the jerk, dammit! :)


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23 Nov 2007, 1:13 am

I've always been attracted to the quieter, good guys. However, I end up with the jerks because I am quiet and can't get the nice guys attention. The jerks tend to find me.


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23 Nov 2007, 1:55 am

I don't think they would so much. My mom has some AS-like traits, and she married my dad who is very meek and mild.



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23 Nov 2007, 2:10 am

SpaceStace wrote:
Mw99 wrote:
What do you call a "good" guy?


Well the easy answer is "not a jerk". It's hard to explain, but I like men who are considerate, thoughtful, kind, all that goody-goody stuff. Humble. Someone who does the right thing rather than take the easy, selfish way out. When I see a guy stand up for someone who can't stand up for himself, it's like love at first sight. And when I'm dating a guy and he does something "wrong" like steal or belittle someone or be racist, I'm immediately so turned off I can't even look at him any more.

But I'm not normal. :D

Kinda sounds like your describing an aspie guy



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23 Nov 2007, 2:30 am

Heck no.



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23 Nov 2007, 3:07 am

It depends on how hot the jerk is. j/k


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23 Nov 2007, 3:11 am

violet_yoshi wrote:
It depends on how hot the jerk is. j/k


:lol:

You forgot about money. We dig cash, too. Prestige and wealth are great qualities for hot jerks to possess.


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Mw99 wrote:
What do you call a "good" guy?


Well the easy answer is "not a jerk". It's hard to explain, but I like men who are considerate, thoughtful, kind, all that goody-goody stuff. Humble. Someone who does the right thing rather than take the easy, selfish way out. When I see a guy stand up for someone who can't stand up for himself, it's like love at first sight. And when I'm dating a guy and he does something "wrong" like steal or belittle someone or be racist, I'm immediately so turned off I can't even look at him any more.

But I'm not normal. :D


QFT! I agree.

Mw99, I assume you think you're not a "jerk". With all due respect, are you really sure you don't come across that way?


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23 Nov 2007, 3:13 am

which is often why they are jerks in the first place



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23 Nov 2007, 3:19 am

aeroz wrote:
which is often why they are jerks in the first place


Yes, I'd say that a great amount of popular praise for any of those qualities (wealth, looks, power) generally ruins a man's personality. There's not much that's uglier than arrogance and an overactive sense of entitlement.

Eh, maybe I'm giving too hasty an opinion. There are probably uglier things. But not many.


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23 Nov 2007, 5:36 am

No, I am not. I am attracted to intelligence, compassion, curiosity, drive, tallness, dark hair and good facial bone structure. And nice eyes. And red hair.

*waits for someone to come in and say "well, women always say they don't like jerks, but we MEN knows all about them lying bee-atches"*

I don't like spineless wimps who spend all their time whining about how they can't get laid even though they are just so nice. Those are "Nice Guys". There is a world of difference between them and guys who actually are nice.


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