Why do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?

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For people that do have Girlfriends/Boyfriends, why do you have them? What do they bring to your life? What made you decide to have one?

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my first husband married me because he needed someone to smuggle and hold his drugs for him.

I love my boyfriend because he is my best friend. He is a good cuddler, and listener. He is funny and makes me laugh. He confides in me and tells me what he is feeling. He is always there for me.

Dear jesus I hope this is a lie. But a funny lie.



I'd probably have to agree with this. I have a female best friend, and yeah that's great, but I've known her way way way way way too long to be attracted to her (plus, our relationship is pretty much built on not seeing each other too much -- but that is really hard to explain) and for anything to develop in that direction. However, whenever I have a girlfriend, she turns into my (other/additional) best friend and It's just someone I want to share everything with. Maybe not all the time -- in fact I would prefer not all the time. But if something funny or interesting happens they would be someone I would tell, and they would care, and they would tell me something, and I would care.

Someone you can count on to regularly be with you on certain nights maybe to do nothing or maybe to do everything, like go on vacation.

I can't take my best friend on vacation -- would be too weird.

Basically, I have treated -- and intend to keep treating -- all of my girlfriends (all few of them) as my very best friend.

*The purpose?*
Well, I want someone that I can spend time with, and share with, and talk to, that I feel won't judge me, will understand me, and will introduce me to new things. I get lonely, and I can't maintain friendship*S* too well, so one really good girlfriend works better for me than a couple 'okay' friends.

Plus, it makes me feel much more normal. But I don't think it should, and I don't think that should be a good reason.

I would tell you, but then I wouldn't get the royalties on my memoirs.

So often we hope the truth is palatable. So often is isn't. There certainly isn't any other place I can be myself but here. I hope I don't have to tell pretty little lies to be accepted.

Merle

Android you clearly have a lot of questions about love and stuff in general, but it would make a lot more sense to have put all of these into one thread instead of making three separate threads with very similar questions, none of which can be answered.

I had a girlfriend because she was the only person I had been able to get close to, and I felt very comfortable and safe knowing that there was someone with whom I could be affectionate to without worrying about what it might mean to them, because if you're in a relationship it's normal.

My wife is very sweet and nice. She takes good care of me, and gave me three children.

The good relationships you don't decide on having - they decide for you. If you find someone who's a good fit, it really just feels natural to slip into that sort of relationship.

I had given up on men when I met my bf. I fell head over heals because he is so different. No BS, no games. He is my best friend and my snuggle buddy. We bring different perspectives into each others lives. I can’t imagine a day of my life without him. I didn’t choose him, destiny made us find each other. Waiting for the right one is so worth the wait!!

I agree. And that serendipity that brings two people together when it clicks is what leads people to think it is 'fated' or 'soul mates' is how the pheremones cause us to react when pheromones harmonize. It is an interesting experience that draws our mates to us, and we to them

Merle

That's how things started with my guy.

people are needing a bf/gf nowadays because they need to put 'in relation with...' on their facebook profile, not to mention the kissing pictures.

My boyfriend brings a lot to my life. He listens to me, which is very important, he makes me laugh even if I am feeling sad, this is also very important to me.
He looks after me by being protective and knowing when I am sad or afraid.
It feels good just to know you have someone care for you, when they do not have to.

i love my girlfriend the snow coverd feilds because its always beautiful and doesnt talk

I remember 10 years ago I thought that having a gf was the solution to my feelings of unfullfillment and inadequacy. I thought that having one would increase my social status and make other people think that I was "ok". But you know what, a year later when I actually GOT a gf I realized that I was WRONG. To be honest it really didnt make me happy and fullfilled, in a nutshell it wasnt cracked up to be. I had unrealistic expectations about what it would actually do for me. Happiness is not getting what you want, its wanting what you Have. Now I feel Im back to square 1 feeling like I did a decade ago but I try to keep reminding myself. MAybe its true that's actually Okay to be single even though I really feel like f*****g shouldt be.