Indecisiveness

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Or maybe even the inability to make decisions.

Does this affect you? are you unable to commit one way or the other?

Depth mentioned this and it struck a chord, I struggle with this on a daily basis from "What do you want for dinner?" to "What are we going to do this weekend?" so on and so forth.

I normally defer decisions to the other people involved. I usually just say "whatever you want" or "I don't care" to keep the decision out of my hands.

I am nearly incapable of making decisions. It causes a problem at work which I hide well, but this is indeed something I have trouble with.

Oh yes. People (NT's) don't tend to believe me, but yes. I felt really ridiculous when I posted that post asking for help to decide! But I simply couldn't, and I have this problem to a point where people get frustrated and mad at me. I have gotten into a lot of trouble because of my "I don't know" answers. This gets even worse if people are stressing me; all thoughts leave my head and I can't even form a comprehensible reply, if even say anything at all. If people pester me for a decision, it usually ends with me whimpering and flinching away.

Not to decide is to decide...

I never had trouble making decisions. There are some tough decisions that may take me a while to consider, but I'm usually extremely quick in deciding.

yes! i cant make decisons at all, i better learn though because i want to live independlty

What I do, and it may not work for you, due to aspergers and the unlikelihood of me having it, is think about it for a couple of seconds then just say one of the choices quickly.

I used to be really bad about it... I'm better now, but it's still tough sometimes. I think for me it boils down to the fact that I always see several pros and cons to each side, and I feel like there is no real correct answer and that it is only my perception that is going to determine which I choose, so I wrestle around with my perception weighing these pros and cons ad infinitum until finally I have to say to heck with it and I pick something.

With big decisions, though, I find it's best to let them come to you. I am now a senior in college, and it took me this whole time to figure out what I want to do with my life. As a freshman, all I thought about all day long was what I should major in and what I should do with my life, and all it did was confuse me more. It wasn't until I stopped trying so hard and just lived for a couple of years that I realized what was important to me.

i'd also like to add that this is my biggest problem i think

Yes. Especially so when a plan I had has been thwarted by someone else midway. Also when stressed. I've had a pretty severe case of 'executive dysfunction'(either that, or just plain laziness) for the last couple years, but now that I have an idea what is going on, I'm more motivated than I've ever been since 2004.

I often say "I don't know" when people ask me to decide something, not because I truly don't know but because I don't want to offend anyone by making the wrong choice. It's a weak thing to do and I've been making an effort to change.