KimJ wrote:
The second one makes a lot of sense. Of course, my son doesn't have those "internal rules" to sit still. Once he started talking, he was able to share some of his sensory issues, or he gets so out of control that it's obvious that something is bothering him.
This is a problem in schools and how they perceive autistic students' needs. The introverted kids that don't "act out" get overlooked because "there's no problem" and the extroverted kids that fidget, mimic, stim or lash out are considered behavior problems.
I have heard from parents of older kids that couldn't get any services because their kids were so "perfect" in the school's eyes. Getting your son to verbalize the early signs should nip this in the bud. YOu don't want him to associate sensory problems with anxiety or asthma.
I flew under the radar for years because I was usually quiet and well behaved at school. I had a few tantrums over the years at home during the school years but after I left school and was bullied at college, all hell broke loose!
The pent up anger of years started coming out and I found it well nigh impossible at times to keep up the defences I'd used for so many years.
For that reason, it's so much better for children to be diagnosed earlier and get the help they need in school. I would not wish some of the stuff my family and I went through on my worst enemy.
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