What does it feel like to be in love?

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Even though I've had many crushes, I've never actually been madly in love. What does it feel like to be in love? I ask this so I will know in the future so I know the diffrence between being in love and just having an emotional rush.

I don't think it ever feels the same to anybody. There are also different types of love. I have a love of my life but we decided to just be friends and we each married other people. This is because even though we are crazy about each other we just did not want the same things out of life.

I also have a husband that I love but that is really much more of a calm peaceful steady feeling. There is not really a lot of passion with my husband and me just security. There is however, calm physical attraction not the heart pounding thing I have experianced with crushes.

I also have another close male friend that I love but it is really more of a sisterly - brotherly thing but I do find that life without him would be hard to deal with because of his calming affect on me.

So take it for what it is worth but this has been my experiances

She is right, there are different kinds of love.

You know when you love someone because they matter to you much more than yourself, all you think about is them, things you'd like to do and discuss with them, what would make them happy, and it will take you out of yourself- even for an aspie. You will probably be attracted to the person, but the regard for them is high enough that you would not harm them or risk making them unhappy if following through on the attraction would have negative effects.

To be completely honest, I think falling in love is one of the most painful, gut wrenching things that can happen to a person.

It feels like you're riding a really intense amusement park ride, winning the lottery, and being punched in the chest.

Simultaneously.

It feels like being on Zoloft, Vicodin, and NoDoz (caffeine), all at the same time.

It can feel like many things in many ways,
The touch of someone you desire and desires you can be anything from electric to that of feeling safe and at long last no longer alone, an intensely peaceful feeling.
It can keep your mind reeling with worries and fears, and yet so high you feel alive for the vary first time,
it's all more a matter of compatibility and desire and in what ways your compatible in reflection to the way someone can make you feel and your own dreams.

My biggest word of advice I can give is simply this, do your own thing, enjoy life as much as you can, do this in the open to where others can see, its like advertising, some day, some time, sooner or later, a girl will come along and like what she See's and will want to get to know you, this will help immensely with the compatibility issues that if neglected turns out more often then not the down fall of many relationships.

What many girls like and are attracted to is someone who is capable of taking care of them when their weak like with child and/or after child birth, someone who is responsible enough for them selves to take care of the ones they are with if worst came to worst, someone who is responsible enough to make not only a good partner but a good father/parent. someone who is gentle and kind, yet strong of heart and spirit.

So, go out and find what makes YOU happy, build the home that YOU have always dreamed of, go chase YOUR dreams, it may take time, but all else will fallow in good time friend.

Don't ignore your own dreams to make others happy to try and attract them or keep them, if you do this you may end up stuck in a relationship your not happy in and that may be doomed to fail.


To every time there is a season, to every season there is a time.
Make your own seasons and times happen, its your life, live it.

yep - all of the above.

it's different for different people, and it's different each time for each person.

i prefer to love someone, rather than being "in love" with them. to me, being in love is the initial stage, the first few weeks of excitement. and then one has to settle down to the work which any relationship requires. those fireworks of "in love" are fantastic when you're young (well, they're still fantastic when you're a bit older, too). i prefer the idea of the long term, safe, mutual trust and respect thing more, though (not that i've ever actually got to that stage ).

so, enjoy it while it's there, and then enjoy the next bit as it comes.

As above.


But, it feels quite nice also

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I'm very glad that you're happy in love. You are extremely lucky!!

That said, I do maintain that it is possible to love someone deeply and truly even when they couldn't care less.

Feels like heaven for the first 6 months, like hell for the last 6 months, and pretty ordinary in between.