Is it strange...

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...to have considered myself to have something wrong with me, in connection to other humans, all my life, and have no idea what it was?

I can't talk to people, sometimes the meaningless questions make me feel sick to the stomach.

I can't answer phone calls, if I do make myself do it, the conversation is forced and frightening.

I would much prefer to be by myself doing something I like, such as reading, or listening to music - than to be surrounded by humans, forcing myself to enjoy their company because it seems expected that I do so.

The idea of public transport or areas like shopping centres/malls terrify me.

I'm losing any friends I had, because I can't be there for them, when they need me. I can only open up and talk to two people I know, and one of them is related to me.

I don't know if I am NT, but I sure as hell don't feel like it... on this planet, the humans make me feel like my own company is always safer, more reliable, and better than any of theirs.

I'm sorry to blurt out so much in one of my first posts. Honesty is the best policy?

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Somewhere between self-censorship to the point of utter silence, and having a whinge about absolutely every-bloody-thing, there is a middle ground. I have yet to find it, myself....

Welcome to Wrong Planet, PseudoHare, and I hope you find yourself at home here.

to the real world Aspie that is. Your really not alone, it made me smile reading this as yet another carbon copy. the aspie community is great, because there are others the same and who understand.

Welcome PseudoHare,

I thought everyone was like that, then just me, now just WP.

It is a bit of a shock to find that it is common here.

Your own company is safer, more reliable, and better.

Welcome to WP, your struggles sound a lot like my own. Hardly go out, very few friends, much prefer to be left alone most of the time.

I cant really answer if its strange or not, I guess it depends who you are talking to.

I live my life by an "honesty is the best policy" rule, I find it difficult to get the things I need if I am now honest about who I am and what they are. That doesnt mean I whine about every little thing, just that I am up front and on the table about what can be expected from me.

Nice to meet you, PseudoHare.

Hey!

Yes, this is a tricky one. I too am trying to figure this one out. 'Keeping it real' as some would say is probably the stupidest thing ever. I'd say it's honesty within reason. If I were to completely "honest" it'd be a non-stop, rambling, stream-of-consciousnesses thing - questioning and doubting things at every turn. I think when people say they like honest people, they mean those that can admit things braying at their psyche but somehow translate it to universally understood speech. I don't think anyone would want an 'honest' insane person. There's ideas that are shared and understood by a consensus and some people have a better than average way of communicating it.

Pure honesty could entail hurting someone's feelings, in my case at least. So in my opinion honesty does indeed require a lot of self-censorship. I despise when people think "saying what's on your mind" is the best policy. It's not. Period. Not always. It can cut back on guilt in certain cases I think.

You pretty much copied my thought out of my head xD

I live by the honesty policy too... generally.

Welcome btw.

Welcome to WrongPlanet!