Can we AS sufferers reproduce with a clean conscience?

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Let's face it, as much as we try to rationalize our condition and make productive lives for ourselves, we AS sufferers are defective people.

There is a genetic component to AS, so any children we have shall carry the genes that cause our affliction. All the awkwardness we've suffered throughout our lives, all the pain of exclusion and confusion, all the unfairness we face in school and work shall be passed on to the next generation(s) should we choose to have kids. So, knowing this, should we thus deliberately inflict our disorder onto our descendants? Or would it be more socially responsible to let our disorder die with us?

In our case, having kids and raising a family would be a selfish act. We would be doing it for ourselves alone. We would be inflicting our disorder onto the next generation to satisfy our parental instincts. How many of us, given the choice, would choose to have AS over being NT? Not many, if we're honest about it. But our children wouldn't have that choice, just as we didn't have that choice.

Most of us fundamentally dislike who and what we are, and with good cause. We have very little to offer society in real terms. Having intelligence is useless if you lack the social skills to share your gifts with others. Now we've all heard the happy-clappy rhetoric about how everyone is special and everyone has something to offer and people should just accept one another for who they are, but we know in our hearts that this is just the mewling of weaklings and freaks, trying desperately to assuage their despair and rage at being the objects of derision and ridicule to all those around them.

Well, fortunately for the human gene pool, our condition severely limits our opportunities to reproduce anyway. Regardless, would any of you say it is socially irresponsible and cruel for AS sufferers to have children?

It would be socially irresponsible for me to have children, but for different reasons. I know I don't have the temperament for raising kids, and might end up murdering any that I have out of sheer frustration.

Once apon a time, being intelligent without being socially accepted was okay.

I really don't like the idea of superiority battles people deal with and belittle others into thinking they should have never been born and shouldn't reproduce.

Defective? I'm just fine. Sure others might have different views of me but I'd much rather be myself. It's not me who is the problem, the problem is them.

When was the last time you met someone who accepted you unconditionally and didn't attack you for your differences? That is what I do for people I'm close to and if they cannot give that in return well, I want nothing more to do with them.

Kwiksnax, I think you'll find that not all of us are miserable. I don't think that I "suffer" more than the folks Quatermass refers to as "Soap Opera People". I'm happier all by myself than they appear to be, with all their dozens and dozens of so-called friends. I see sides of issues that people who talk all the time don't even notice. I would like not to have to struggle so much in the social realm, but I think I am closer to being self-actualized than I would have been without symptoms of AS.

I have really thought about this before and i say, "why not have kids when you are ready?"

Maybe us Aspies should wait until our mid thirties when we are more stable and sure of ourselves. Get married, get a dog, or just get a fern and not kill it. We are smart people, and we can raise smart kids. Integrity is possible if you look...