acceptance?

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laurs
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17 Dec 2007, 2:44 am

at the risk of being a downer, has anyone else just accepted that they will probably be alone for their whole life?

i'm 29 and obviously incapable of forming meaningful and lasting relationships... it's one disaster right after another.

is it so wrong to give up this quest for the seeming normalcy of having an intimate relationship when i know deep down that i'm not capable of it, and probably never will be? i don't think that you can 'learn' how to be in a relationship...

Kilroy
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17 Dec 2007, 2:46 am

I get my heart brken before I even get to date the girl
I think if you find the right person
that it can work
I feel the same
and that my "special person" doesn't exist or died 100 years ago :lol:
I still have hope for whatever reason
you should too

laurs
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17 Dec 2007, 2:49 am

i had hope too... when i was your age.

men aren't even interested in me. or maybe i'm just so socially ret*d that i don't notice or realize it.

but if they're interested... why don't they make it obvious?

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17 Dec 2007, 2:50 am

cause they're stupid
they want a bit of challange
though not to much
most men are pigs anyways and I hate them :lol:

laurs
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17 Dec 2007, 2:52 am

i'm more then a bit of a challenge!! ! :lol:

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17 Dec 2007, 2:56 am

yeah I thought I was ugly

wasn't true
you just think you are

laurs
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17 Dec 2007, 3:01 am

i'm the type of person that should probably wear a bag over their head.

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17 Dec 2007, 3:01 am

Yeah it is pretty hard not to be cynical about it. I would like to think I will meet the right girl and have a great relationship, but I am not so sure that will happen. The worst part is how NT people react when they find out how little you have dated and had relationships, it doesn't exactly help things. Honestly, thinking about relationships just makes me angry and frustrated. I haven't given up completely yet, I can just see myself easily going many more years without a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I should see a therapist or something, but I don't know if they will be much help. The fact that AS is in the picture seems like it would be too complex for them to understand.

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17 Dec 2007, 3:02 am

you think that-but I do doubt that is true
you don't know how many girls have said that to me and turned out to be stunningly gorgious

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17 Dec 2007, 3:08 am

I was talking to her and how does that not make sence

laurs
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17 Dec 2007, 3:09 am

Space wrote:

i can relate to that.

i'm stuck in this cycle of meeting people and pushing them away.

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17 Dec 2007, 3:11 am

Kilroy wrote:

you think that-but I do doubt that is true
you don't know how many girls have said that to me and turned out to be stunningly gorgious

i'm not that kind of girl. :oops:

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17 Dec 2007, 3:11 am

well they all say that too :lol:

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17 Dec 2007, 3:12 am

Heh... I'm in the cycle of not even bothering in the first place :roll:

I haven't given up hope though. I am acceptant, but hopeful. Besides, I have my cat and my interests... what more does a young man need?