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Dracula
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24 Dec 2007, 8:47 am

before you spout off that it's an impossibility, I want to say: Bull. Aspies have been procreating for centuries, so some Aspies have some type of Game.

Do YOU have Game? and if your answer is yes, please describe it. that way we can have an archive.

Yes. My Game includes masking most, if not all of my AS symptoms (facading as an NT), and moving in on a woman in a way that is direct, yet not desperate; alpha-male, but not completely as*hole. I found that elaborate step-by-step systems can't work, because every session is different (though the essentials are invariable)... and that you have to evolve your seduction style to the female target, the situation, and the enviroment.



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24 Dec 2007, 3:17 pm

NOPE, I will admit at the age of 25 I have no game. Sometimes women would approach me cause I think they liked my looks (i dress in nice expencive EMS cloths, and look pretty clean cut) but when they talk to me for a little bit I always come off as too distant and "uninterested."

Something to work on, I have a "GF" but not sure where thats going...


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24 Dec 2007, 6:54 pm

What the hell is 'game'? If you mean have I been successful with women, I have, but it's nothing to do with having any sort of game plan, it's just because my good qualities show through.



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25 Dec 2007, 12:27 pm

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25 Dec 2007, 2:54 pm

I have no Game. That's one of the things that attracted my wife - she was tired of players.

(The other thing was that she's turned on by brains...) :)


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25 Dec 2007, 8:29 pm

I have no game.
I want to have some, but haven't really got the motivation or correct place/time for it..
My only motivation is 'wanting to achieve what NTs can' and 'having a girlfriend', but the chance of f*****g it up and f**k up a perfectly good friends-relationship just scares the hell out of me.



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25 Dec 2007, 10:22 pm

I'm not sure how my game is, I haven't really put myself out there yet...



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25 Dec 2007, 10:54 pm

I'd be modest, but I gave up modesty a long time ago 8) Yes, I have game.

I'd sum it all up here, but it would take forever, so instead I'll refer those seeking knowledge to the site that started it all for me:

Go Here and read the part that says "you are new".

That site should give you all you need to get started, if anyone wants more material, feel free to PM me, I'm glad to help out :D However, make sure you go out and use these techniques. Like, if you aren't going to be doing anything tonight, go out to a local club and practice some openers. TONIGHT. Don't put it off unless you really have to.

You don't have to do anything else with the girls you meet, just practice those conversation starters. If you cant remember the openers, then go up to girls at the club, tap them on the shoulder, smile and say hi, then walk away. That way you'll build up your confidence.

There is loads of material in here, but don't go sponging it all up unless you are going to use it.

My game is a combination of the Venutian Arts, the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder and Cocky/Funny (PM me for material about any of these)

Hope the guys out there will find this useful 8)

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26 Dec 2007, 11:42 am

I'm only successful when my game can overcome my anti-game.

My game strategy includes:
- talking about things that no one else talks about, i.e. things that are actually interesting (in my opinion anyway). I think people get sick of talking about the same old stuff.
- having lots of energy (i'm ad/hd as well). Most people in my demographic don't seem to have a lot of physical or creative energy.
- being different, which is easier now that I don't care at all what anyone else might think... this ranges from appearance to lifestyle choices.
- being pretty funny, once I get going, and always being able to crack myself & others up in any situation.
- liking people who are also a bit different, i.e. stacking the deck in my own favor, in a way.

My anti-game includes:
- being really fidgety, which people always interpret as bored & restless
- not being able to make eye contact
- not being able to come up with conversation after my planned topics run out
- being absolutely useless when it comes to the telephone, which NTs seem to rely on a lot for social purposes (go figure)



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26 Dec 2007, 12:12 pm

I have a plan and a way that I approach women and here it is:

1. Dont use one liners ! they are cheap, and meaningless.
2. Dont try and get off with them in the first five minutes. In fact dont try and get off with them on the first night... even if it happens they will decide.

3. When men see women they think "ohh, Id like to go to bed with her." and they spend their time trying to achieve this very quickly and nervously.

4. A women thinks: "I like him, Id like to get to know him." A woman takes longer than a man to decide, so you have to give her the sapce to do that. If you try to rush a woemn she will reject you even if she likes you.

5. What do you do then?
Dont even think about getting them into bed, just think critically. Think she "might" be the one for me... Talk to her. Smile, be nice, be friendly, DONT use one liners, try to be funny but dont tell stand up jokes.
Always leave before it gets boring. Give them space.

Woemn are not stupid. They know if you are interested or not. They dont need crap one liners to know this. They have an inbuilt sense. As an Aspie the biggest problem is talking about them and not about yourself. You have to show interest in their jobs, their hobbies, where they live etc. Think up questions before you go out.

It may take a day, it may take two weeks, It could even take a month... but a woman will finally decide if she likes you, but first she will want to check you out and get enough info to decide. In this time you just have to wait. Be nice, smile, chat but wait... When she has decided she will let you know.
You can suggest meeting. But I wouoldnt do it on the first night unless she suggests it. And I would make clear that it is just friendly, that I am just interested in her on a friendly basis no strings attached...

Personally I always have the impluse to tell a women I love her and want to have her babies on the first night, but I fight this.

Dont fear rejection. If you want o play the game you have to accept that some women you like dont like you, but, to find those that do like you you have to get knocked back once or twice.

I have been single for four weeks. I have talked to six or seven women. I have been out with two. But I havent asked any for a phone nujmber, I havent done anything. Eventually one of them may decide that they want more from me.. and they will let me know... otherwise I will carry on going out and planting little seeds in their minds.



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27 Dec 2007, 8:04 am

I imagine that many of us would have game.

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27 Dec 2007, 5:33 pm

I think the word "game" is misleading to how things actually work. The strategies that would do you well in a real game like... let's say, poker, would do you poorly with meeting women.

A professional poker player would sit at the table for hours winning the war or attrition over a long time, never betting more than he can afford to lose and come out with a larger stack at the end of the day. Effective, but not much fun.

However, the noob would go all in on his first good hand and either lose big or win big all at once. Of course, even if he wins, he'll likely lose it later pulling another similar stunt with not such a favorable outcome. He had one hell of a time losing it though!!

My game with women is like the noob poker player. I simply go "all-in" hoping for the best and have a blast doing it. It's not about winning, it's about getting other people to wanna play with you. lol



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27 Dec 2007, 7:50 pm

[quote="deadeyexx"]I think the word "game" is misleading to how things actually work. The strategies that would do you well in a real game like... let's say, poker, would do you poorly with meeting women.

A professional poker player would sit at the table for hours winning the war or attrition over a long time, never betting more than he can afford to lose and come out with a larger stack at the end of the day. Effective, but not much fun.

However, the noob would go all in on his first good hand and either lose big or win big all at once. Of course, even if he wins, he'll likely lose it later pulling another similar stunt with not such a favorable outcome. He had one hell of a time losing it though!!

My game with women is like the noob poker player. I simply go "all-in" hoping for the best and have a blast doing it. It's not about winning, it's about getting other people to wanna play with you. lol[/quote

Actually, the phrase "game" is quite accurate. When you go out, you want to act as if everything you do is a game: it doesn't matter. If you pick up a woman, bonus points, and no matter how many times you get rejected, you always have extra lives.