Do you get jealous of people with better people skills?

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I noticed I am always getting upset around friends who have better social skills. I hate how they can effortlessly make conversation with other people, especially with women, and make everyone laugh without any effort. I can tell how much they are liked by other people, and it really angers me some times. I try so hard to figure out how to get people to like me and what to say, and it just comes natural to these people, yet I can't think of anything to say without people thinking I am off-beat and kind of strange. Sometimes I try to say I have AS and it is hard for me, but people just can't seem to understand or offer a solution.

Anyone with a pulse has better social skills than me, which means that they get more friends, better jobs and have a more active social life. Sometimes this makes me jealous and sometimes it makes me angry but most of the time I deal with it and move on.

Ed Almos

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It can irritate me to an unhealthy degree...

Sometimes I don't think they neccesarilly have better people skills but different people skills, which conform to a way of life where such skills are more suited.

No. I used to, but I'm at a beautiful point of self acceptance in that area, and I don't really care anymore.

YES. Especially when they use them to get things that I want and deserve more. Life IS just like highschool and being liked IS more important then being smart and competant.

No. I generally don't really feel jealous of anything as I don't see much point in it. Rather put the energy into self-improvement.

Envious of other people's social skills...? No. During the years I've sorta' kinda' learned to get by to some extent. I know I'm far from "perfect" in this field, but in the right "settings" I get by just fine...

No not really im just happy da way i am.

Oh yeah, and did I mention that at work, lots of customers compliment me on how nice I am? Not to mention also that a lot of the coworkers try to talk and joke around with me, and the store manager there shows lots of enthusiasm when I talk to him.

No, when I run across a really charming, witty person, I'm really fascinated by it, and try to learn from them. Every once in a while someone like that will talk to me, and they're so good at it that I leave the conversation feeling smart, witty, and funny. I find that I can really enjoy and do well at holding up my end in a conversation with a person who has really great social skills. Which I think is what their appeal is - people who are charming make everybody else feel great too!

I mean, I wish it was a skill I had naturally, but I just accept that I don't and try to pick up what I can. Sometimes I can glean a good joke or one-liner from it.

Very rarely, I feel jealous.
A lot of the time, I feel bad about myself for not possessing the same skills.
Usually, I observe what they do and learn from it.