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05 Jan 2008, 6:50 pm

If you have AS, what are some things you personally do to show someone you care about that you care about them? Or someone you love that you love them?



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05 Jan 2008, 7:09 pm

I tell them.
I also go out of my way and out of my comfort zone to help them or make them feel better.
And if I make a mistake I apoligize as soon as I can.



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05 Jan 2008, 7:25 pm

Jaejoongfangirl wrote:
I tell them.
I also go out of my way and out of my comfort zone to help them or make them feel better.
And if I make a mistake I apoligize as soon as I can.

Sounds alot like the things i do...


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05 Jan 2008, 7:37 pm

if i'm comfortable with a person, i'll jump on them and hug them.

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I also go out of my way and out of my comfort zone to help them or make them feel better.

same for me


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05 Jan 2008, 9:02 pm

I will tell them how I feel and do what I can to make them understand I love them because I just cant show affection and cant convey the message any other way then verbally because I dont give off the right signals.


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05 Jan 2008, 9:23 pm

Affection and attention


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05 Jan 2008, 9:25 pm

I don't know how to express it, really. I guess when it happens I'll know. :?



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05 Jan 2008, 9:45 pm

The same ways a NT does.

Just far less frequently, and far more intensely.

If there is one thing I notice about people with AS, they are generally very loyal and loving, but it is a much harder and slower process to earn their love and trust. I am DEFINITELY like that.



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05 Jan 2008, 10:59 pm

You can hug them. If they're an NT you should try to look them in the eye. If you're not comfortable just out and saying "I love you," you can say "I care about you." If they seem to be in distress, try to make them feel better.


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05 Jan 2008, 11:02 pm

Lots of petting and snuggling. Oh, wait - you didn't mean my cat - you meant to other humans! Sorry. (Just kidding)


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05 Jan 2008, 11:09 pm

I just sit there wondering why I am unable to actually tell them that I love them...



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05 Jan 2008, 11:12 pm

I would prefer petting, snuggling, and kissing. And sex, when it becomes appropriate (I have yet to reach that point in a relationship).

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05 Jan 2008, 11:21 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
I would prefer petting, snuggling, and kissing. And sex, when it becomes appropriate (I have yet to reach that point in a relationship).

Tim


The funny thing is, most of my fantasies about women (since I can't actually get women for reasons I explained earlier) are about lying in bed and holding her close... not about sex at all...

To me, sex is just a means to an end, a physicality that may or may not be a part of a romantic relationship (or even some other types of relationship)... the real love comes from the point where those involved are almost one in soul (also applicable to family and friend types of love, as well as romance, it's just that romance may also involve sex as mentioned earlier...)



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05 Jan 2008, 11:24 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
I would prefer petting, snuggling, and kissing. And sex, when it becomes appropriate (I have yet to reach that point in a relationship).

Tim


The funny thing is, most of my fantasies about women (since I can't actually get women for reasons I explained earlier) are about lying in bed and holding her close... not about sex at all...

To me, sex is just a means to an end, a physicality that may or may not be a part of a romantic relationship (or even some other types of relationship)... the real love comes from the point where those involved are almost one in soul (also applicable to family and friend types of love, as well as romance, it's just that romance may also involve sex as mentioned earlier...)


I was just referring to not doing it on the first date. Sex does not become appropriate in a relationship until the third date, at the very earliest.

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05 Jan 2008, 11:26 pm

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06 Jan 2008, 12:11 am

kitschinator wrote:
The same ways a NT does.

Just far less frequently, and far more intensely.

If there is one thing I notice about people with AS, they are generally very loyal and loving, but it is a much harder and slower process to earn their love and trust. I am DEFINITELY like that.



[i]I really liked whomever posted this. This is very similar to how I am. I enjoy showing love and affection. I like doing small things like making something, going to the store, buying flowers, doing something for somebody I like. I do like hugging and kissing if I am close to a person. Anyhoo...