gwenevyn wrote:
Honestly.... I think you're right. In terms of daily interaction, I think on average, girls outside the mainstream are just as likely to be difficult to get along with as the other girls. However, I think they also have different expectations for their mates and may (again, on average) be more open-minded.
I think anyone who's well lived and worldwise is easier to get along with, they've galvanized past their own insecurities and I sometimes think that's how a lot of my best friends when I was in my 20's were actually through one friend who was in a crowd a couple years younger than my core group. You know how in highschool you had the preppy crowd but you also had the side of the preppy crowd who was into alcohol, drugs, gangster rap, partied, a bit more blue collar at heart, etc.? Those friends, from all the stupid stuff they'd gotten into as kids, a lot of them were gaining something a bit past street smarts, kinda like an eastern wisdom of sorts just atypically collected. That seems to happen with a lot of people who've either been extremely analytical in their day, got into a lot of stupid stuff in their day and a lot of trouble with the law, or alternatively went through a lot and were determined to rise above. The unlived, the underdeveloped, the people who cling to "this is what society tells me I should do" out of fear rather than testing and reaffirming it logically, those tend to be the people who are tougher to deal with - guys and girls alike of course.