How quickly do you get obsessed with your major crushes?

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This is the only poll I've posted here that hasn't had some crazy "gag answer" like "after I've already raped and murdered them" or "I like apples and bananas topped with cheese." I hope you appreciate that. XD

Crushes...

...over before they even start.

Why? The mere fact that you give your crush more value than yourself. It shows in interactions, and kills the whole flow.

It's equally hard for men and women to get over their crushes

MEN:A majority of us want to seek her as the prize, and end up screwing up.
WOMEN:There are many more guys out there, but the emotional attachment women have to their crushes keeps them after those crushes.

Answer:

MEN: Find another woman to talk to. You'll forget about the crush right quick!
WOMEN: Have a girl's night out. Same thing.

It's not as simple as finding another woman to talk to, dude. Part of the reason why my few major crushes are so intense is because they only happen for very specific people who, frankly, attract me way more than anyone else does. Plus, the nature of limerence (or just plain' old obsession) means you can't stop thinking about it no matter how many distractions you have.

Generally there's a period of about a month where I try to convince myself that I don't have any reason to like a particular person.

I made the mistake of marrying one, and fast, so I voted for the first option. After that was over I made it a point to not talk intimately to anyone I felt attracted to until I knew there was more to it than just a crush. There's something to be said for those extremely rare instances when you cool off, wait it out, and find out that it's real, substantial, and mutual.

Depends it can be quite slowly, I can be in denial for a while (emotional blunting). Or quite fast. I don't really know if I would call them major crushes in hindsight. There can be a touch of arbitrary about them. Other cases I end up really respecting them but realize we are not compatible. Other case is has been reciprocal but I failed to act. I talk as if there have been a bunch of them, I could count them on one hand. Sometimes I would merely flirt with the idea with connecting with somebody.

To get over crush it can take a month or two if that but might stop me from seeking someone lese for much longer.

This doesn't always work. When they are really horrible you don't realize it till much, much later, and another time I just couldn't think ill of her. I still like her as a friend especially her idiosyncrasies.

Quite quickly, but the caveat is I only have one like that every few years.

it varies for me... but it's always been strange, cause i've always remembered THE MOMENT i fall for someone... and it's usually something silly that they never really understand, when the conversation comes up (between me and my said crush). i tend to go from big relationship to the next cause, i don't like most, but when i find one i do like, i don't know how to stop it.

am almost in my 2nd year of an unrequited crush... well, im not sure that's the best way to describe it, but it's unfulfilled to say the least. and i have TRIED dating and other things to no avail.

yeah, me too. It's like once I notice someone for some specific reason then suddenly, bam.

I'm in the midst of one now. I'm trying to get past the crush part so I can figure out whether I really like him for enough reasons. I hate having crushes; I get insomnia, I get really nervous around that person, I get even more distracted than usual.... but I must admit, it's fun to have a little something going on.

Way to quickly, that's for sure ...

I get obsessed almost immediately. Maybe because i don't talk to or trust many people, so the moment someone takes an interest or display signs they care for me deeply my heart is lost to them.

I currently am not crushing on anyone since I am obsessing over my nasty break-up over Winter Break.

However, I think a bunch of girls at school, ranging from freshmen to juniors are crushing on me.

I think this was the reason why a lot of my previous relationships failed. It went something like:

1) Meet someone for the first time.
2) On ethe journey home start planning how you are going to spend the rest of your life with them.
3) Things (on my side anyway) get WAY too intense
4) Relationship crashes and burns

Fortunately things no longer happen that way.

Ed Almos

Guilty as charged. Thats how I do it still.

Too fast. Crushes are a burden for me. All my crushes stayed unreturned/unrequitted except only one time (but it didn't work out anyways) - it really hurts and makes me extremely vulnerable during that time my crush is at its peak. I also hate it because every time my appetite vanishes and I loose too much weight - it really annoys me...there I work hard to gain some weight and then its all gone with the next crush (kinda like that). But luckily I haven't had any major crush lately.