Are You Shy?

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Well I was wondering this since when I was younger, as I rarely spoke to my peers, and when I did, it was rather awkward or pedantic, teachers and my parents thought that I was shy, but I knew that it was in part due to not knowing how to maintain conversation and in part due to the fact that I didn't care for a number of my peers. (This is both before and after my AS diagnosis, by the way.)

Even though most of my friends were/are shy, the fact that people had mistaken me for being shy frustrated me a lot--kind of like if someone said that you were obsessed with trains, when you clearly were obsessed with cars. This doesn't bother me anymore, but it used to, so I was just curious about how shy you are IRL.

Same here. Most people (especially in highschool) are boring conversationalists.
"Blah, blah, blah. Doesn't school suck? Blah, blah, blah."

I'm not shy, just at a constant loss for words. I don't know what to say, especially if I'm ignorant about the topic.

Yes, I am shy. Not only do I have trouble knowing just what to say, but I also become uneasy when it is obvious things aren't going so hot.

quite shy, but when I open up its like a faucet breaks and the flood waters pour until my exhaustion

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I'm close to the third definition.

spacemonkey - you sound like me - I've decided not to beat my head against the relationship wall anymore - it isn't worth my time . . . I'm perfectly happy in my house with my cats, rats, guiena pigs, and computer . . .
I very occassionally get the desire to be social but usually that is only once a month and is easily satisfied by going out to dinner with a person I like to be around and, while I enjoy their company, I am reminded that I can't be normal and go back to my regular world . . .

I am painfully shy but I cover it up by being so open about things that shock people that I don't think anyone thinks of me as shy. I have just learned to say some things that keep people from asking me other things.


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Yes and no. I am shy usually in new situations. Once I am comfortable, sometimes I'm downright obstreperous.

people nearly always assume i'm shy but i don't think i am. there have been a few occasions in my life when i have been keen to make a good impression and i believe i have experienced what it feels like to be shy during those few, isolated moments.
occasionally i've met people who, upon meeting me, have thought that i am intentionally being rude to them. so, although it is really annoying when people describe me as shy it is preferable to the minority of people who accuse me of being rude on purpose.
admittedly, sometimes when people ask why i am so quiet i will tell them "i'm just shy" to stop them from analysing me, so i can't really complain. but the reason i say that is i don't think i should have to explain about my AS to everybody who thinks they have a right to interrogate me just because i behave differently to other people.

I don't even talk to people when I need help,one time when I was 13 I walked around for hours 'caus I was to scared to ask for directions

Excruciatingly shy. Sometimes I won't even say hello to acquaintances - I'll just give 'em a nod. On the www I'm not as bad but I still like the other person to make first contact with me. I'm a lot of work to get to know, but hard work pays off for those who make the effort.

Yes, I have been extremely shy most of my life, and I got worse in adolescence. Now in my adulthood, I think I am a little less shy, but now am noticing that I have problems interacting normally with people. I'm less scared of talking, and now I just don't know what to say. Since I am not officially diagnosed, I'm not sure if the severe shyness made me lose my ability to communicate normally or if I have Asperger's and the shyness just masked the communciations problems.

Aimee