Chatting in the Net vs Chatting In Person

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i write better than i talk, therefore, when im chatting with someone in person, i was like couldnt get my thoughts correctly, often paused just to find the right word. it become more and more difficult nowadays. i get so nervous,i often like to talk about one topic that caught my interest, and when other people try to talk about other things, i try to divert it back to what i was talking about, of course, i did that rather subtly. most of the times, i either speak very very fast or slow, it annoys me when people ask me to repeat it again.

howver, when im chatting online, i was like a whole another person. i was confident, i can make jokes, i can articulate my thoughts correctly. probably because i have the backspace button..

so, have any one of you guys experience this? is this a sign of AS, or just overly shy?

Yes, the 'backspace' button does wonders...

With me, the more I think of what I want to say, the less I can say. Call me socially anxious, but that's just the way it is.

Just let it flow.

It's worlds easier to talk online.

I'm able to directly confront... but it's not my preferance at all. At least online I can stop and ponder what to say (which I often have to do, considering the crowds' topics I debate in).

I then there's times I feel required to say something, but have nothing to say. Hate that.

You aren't alone.

- D

I definitaley have the same problem when I'm talking to someone. Typing's better for me because I can think before I put it down. I think this is a typical aspie trait. Yeah, this site's helping me learn how to communicate better without feeling like an asp. Never was good at small talk.

I do find chatting on the internet 10x easier than in real life. It's funny because the few people on the net that I've told about my AS always say "Really? I had no idea." or "you dont seem autistic". But the couple people I've told in real life said "Oh, that would explain alot..." and "yeah I had a feeling you had it but I didnt want to say anything". I guess I'm just so much at ease online, and don't have to worry about all the other social cues. Just type/talk.

I talk better in person. It's not like I enjoy it more, but when I pronounce all the words clearly, am not uncomfortable or even in an overload, than a face-to-face discussion is much better than one in words only. I'm not that good with words when I must explain something. People usually only have the chance to get what I'm trying to explain when I do it in real life.

This is based on experiences in the past year only.

I find talking on-like to be much easier then talking face-to-face. I don't have to worry about understanding non-verbal communication and I have time to translate my thoughts into words.

Ha, exact same with me. I mean, there are certainly times when I have no problems with talking face-to-face (mostly with people I know very well, but sometimes I'm fine with everyone else, too- it just depends on my mood, I guess), but usually it's much easier to chat over the internet. This isn't to say that I wish I could totally eliminate all face-to-face human interaction in my life (as some people I know have suggested... )- it is something I would like to get better at.

I find both to be incredibly difficult at times - which is why I so seldom post here (or anywhere else)! I'll pop in to read, but sometimes it takes me days or weeks to chime in myself...

100X easier here. Chatting with someone in person just doesn't happen...I stutter sometimes, I can never seem to say what I want to say when I need to say it...most of the time I just end up not saying anything at all.

I agree...a lot easier to talk online than in real life.

I like to have time to think about what I want to say, word it correctly and edit it if needed before sending my message to the receiver(s). In real life, it's impossible to do that, so my conversations usually don't go very well.

I'm like a completely different person online...whether thats good [making me seem more confident] or bad [giving a false image of myself]...I don't know, but I sure am thankful for the internet.

My conversations in face-to-face situations are generally done by joking around a lot.
When I get into a serious conversation, I usually blow it. Sometimes I do alright, but mostly I think I turn people off or totally confuse them.

Online, I find it easier to frame my thoughts and find the correct words to convey my message.

BUT

Seeing as how the internet only allows us to see/hear words and smilies, this form of communication doesn't allow for physical cues such as tone of voice, or facial/body expressions that help determine the emotional content of the message.

Here on the internet, I find people are too easily upset by posts even when the OP was not trying to upset anyone.
Joking around is often mistaken on the internet as being serious and I've seen some harsh words typed because of this misunderstanding.
I think the smilies help a bit, though.

i find it tons easier to talk online, and even my friends have realized that i am a different person when i talk to them on msn or on bebo than when i talk to them in person..
so i agree
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Chatting on the Internet is totally easier and less stressful for me as well.

I write voluminously online, and I love how I can review what I write before I post it so that I don't accidentally say something I'd regret. Everyone I know remarks that I'm many times more talkative online than in person.

It depends, some people I'll talk with better online then inperson and others, the opposite. For in person, the circumstances can vary, if im in a group then its less likely I'll talk to a person. Online conversations can be more serious in some instances. I've gotten to know someone online through chatting. Just a couple days ago, we tried the webcam and talk options and it was different. Its way different when u just add the expression in the voice. I dont think we wouldve gotten to talking like we did if we met in person verses meeting online.

Chatting on the internet is so much easier than chatting in real life. On the internet, I feel much more relaxed, and I have time to think of what I'm gonna say and to phrase myself properly. In real life, I completely stutter.