Can I make it even worse?

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Well, here is my so called situation. My fiancee and I are both Aspies, and are perfectly content being alone together. By this, I mean, we don't care if we don't engage at all in any type of social activities outside of each other. We are getting married soon, and I am moving in with him, and my parents are concerned that I will become more of a recluse than I already am. We don't like going out to the mall, and would much rather rent a movie than have to brave mass hysteria to see it at the theater with the throngs of people herding through the doors. I work and currently attend school, and he works, so it isn't as if there is absolutely no outside ventures. But I was wondering, does anyone else think that our lifestyle could be problematic? I'm already antisocial, but I don't think I can exacerbate it further, or am I wrong??

Does being reclusive bother you? Does it cause you any problems or unhappiness?
If it doesn't, I don't see why it should bother your parents.

I was housebound for several years with no outside contact; I'm still alive and stepping over ants so I don't squish them on the driveway.

What Who_Am_I said.

I'm with Who_Am_I

Most of us have spent a life time having to adapt, act, try and fit in - so all I can say is good on you for believing in each other and allowing to live the life's you want, not what the NTs dictate..

...sounds like heaven.



tell your parents you are happy, really happy, and that they need not
worry about you.

fG

Thanks to all of you. I have always been perfectly happy being alone. My fiancee is the same way, and like I said, we are completely contented. I know that there will always be people that don't accept my particular way of being, and to be crass, I know they will eventually go away. They always do. I have no friends for this reason, and don't mind! I am not social, period. Heaven, yes. Utter solitude is heaven. My perfect day is reading and cooking. (As long as no one attempts to enter the kitchen, I really hate that!) My parents can not grasp this idea whatsoever. You would think after years of me being this way, and a therapist telling them, "She's just anti-social, but happy in being so" you would think they'd give up. I can't wait to move out. I think you all made any anxiety I had reasonably less.