I can't stand people but then I get so lonely.

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People are annoying and demanding. I get annoyed with them and how they must expect me to make sacrifices for them because they're good and nice to me, even if it's just sitting and talking to them when I don't feel like it.


So then, being a piece of s**t, I start treating them like s**t.


Then I distance and detatch and block myself from them, keep away from them, push them away. I don't trust myself not to treat them like s**t. I want tho protect them from my BS. I want to save them the trouble of having to listen to my s**t. I don't want to take up space in their house that someone out there who is better than me deserves.


Besides, aren't people just trouble anyway?


Then I feel so lonely because I have no one.

Yeah humans are social creatures.

Do you have any pets? Dogs are really good as conpanions but you need to look after them. Cats are easier to look after and are less needy.

Maybe you have a negative view about yourself.

If you thought more positvely about yourself then you may be able to treat people better.

We Aspies are eternally by your side. My spirit won't forsake you, but there has to be acceptance of friendship on your part.

- D

Why should you have to protect them? If people can't handle you then that is there problem.
Pets can be great if you don't want to be around people. Unlike people they don't tell you taht you are beign dub or whatever. Cats for instance just sit there and purr. They seems to know when a person is upset.
Not all people are trouble, maybe you just needs some understanding, compassionate people in your life.

I hate the way I hurt Adverb's feelings. He didn't do anything to me. He was so nice and supportive. He once said I would never have to go to school again. But still too demanding for me. You know why? Because I can't even sit in a living room and talk to him and Rich any more; that doesn't even have enough stimulation. I feel so stupid talking about trivial things that mean nothing. It's torture to try and do that. I don't have a sense of humor any more, I guess. and guess what? He wasn't even expecting me to do that. Though he probably was disappointed that I went off by myself. And I can't stand anyone's disappointment in me or something I did or didn't do.

Except when you are lonely and wish you had friends to hang out with. Then you better be able to suck it up and compromise a little bit. Unless you don't want friends, because then you can pretty much act however you feel like.

I cant stand being around people too but luckily i dont get very lonely. I would prefer a pet than to hang around with people.

At one point I made a plan to get some land and breed cats on it, hundreds of cats. And just live there with my cats, and invite my friends over or let them stay for as long as they want. But if I had no human friends at least I would have my cats. I would find it so easy to compensate one of them, usually, if I did something wrong like stepped on his foot by mistake or took my emotional s**t out on him by brushing him off or pushing him away. I could just get it lots of toys and food treats and play with him, or something.


I totally understand why my dad would rather live in his vanwith his cats than have obligations like people and rent to pay. If I had a van and cats I would do the same thing.

People, especially my peers, are the reason I have no desire for what most people call a "social life." I can't stand those people or their ways of living. Their idea of a "social life" is nothing but a self destructive waste of time. However, I do desire someone to talk to but the fact I oppose their lifestyle has pretty much isolated me from any form of companionship.

I want a social life but completely on my terms... meaning I can come on this board, and there are 15000 people and I can talk to whoever I want whenever I want, and it's so nice. It's really good to have a lot of friends because when I have a misunderstanding with one (adverb) I can talk to the other (MADDuck) about it. It's not bitching to my friends about each other. I don't think it is. It's about the misunderstanding, not about adverb. I feel a lot better now.

Yeah, that kind of social life is really nice.

I suppose I should have specified on what I meant by "social life." What some people consider having a "social life" is hanging out with the wrong crowd, participating in criminal activity, street racing, going to clubs where they ingest God knows what, etc. I'm probably wrong, but in my observation, that is what a lot of my peers consider having a "social life" and that is what I am attacking. Now that I think about it, "social life" really isn't the correct term for what I'm describing.

The kind of social life Ana is talking about is the way it should be. It should be on your own terms and within your own boundaries.

there has complex u know?

Except for my cat She wants my attention 24/7

I understand that feeling. Maybe instead of being mean, you could just say that you need some time alone, but promise another time which you could see them. I know it sucks to do this, but it's key to keep friends.

there has complex u know?

And we can of course have get togethers as often as we like with only people who feel like attending attending...