How do you feel when someone denies you have Asperger's?

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I feel anxious.

I don't think my sister believes me, and it makes me angry. I'm the type of person who never lies, and would never even exaggerate about something as important as having AS.

I dont care, AS is just a human made label for HGDH (higher geneticaly developed humans)

I kinda wish they were correct.

I had a GP wonder if I had it or not due to making sporadic eye contact with her rather than a total lack of; I haven't had a psycho/psychic question such other than trying to define me, autism or AS (it's closer to the latter).

I felt confused when I was first introduced to the fact that those with AS can have a delay in language development, and this pushed me into AS as I can speak adequately now (I was a fan of the DSM-IV-TR at the time).

I just get frustrated... so I chose the angry category. Many NTs who don't know much about Autism or AS can't seem to grasp that it's a spectrum. They seem to think if you aren't completely low functioning, you don't have any form of Autism. Not all NTs are like this of course, but many I've met are.

Then there's the group that has never heard of AS and will quickly google it after you tell them you have it, and come to the conclusion that if you don't fit every single description on the list perfectly, you don't have it.

I get pissed if someone denies I have anything, after telling them myself. I see it first that they simply don't believe me, that they think I am lying. Who in their right mind would actually walk around, telling others a lie about something society perceives is a disadvantage?

I chose 'other.' First, I am not sure I have any emotion associated with this denial (except maybe, what is given NT NOT thinking?). I am technically a HFA but have commonalities with Aspies, certainly. Anyway, if 'Professional Unit X' or another would deny, they are negating reality. Plus, my difference is rather obvious so the other would have to be.....deluded? Unconscious (how many fingers am I holding up, doctor?), or in serious denial. I guess my 'other' choice means I would be perhaps perplexed or concerned for the other who denies my autism. This would indicate 'other' is probably not too educated.

Right! You give them the data, which is just a 'given,' and they deny? This is rather insulting! And you're precisely right; what motive would you or I have to lie? Plus, lying is not in our repetoire, given our neuro condition. Yes, just carry your MRI &/or Dx with you, in the very remote event anyone should ask, or worse, be suspect.

I voted angry because I am sick of the "You're not an aspie" crap.
Who died and made them the doctor? You should start asking people that whenever they deny your diagnoses.

If you are questioning your diagnosed because you think your diagnoses is wrong and you don't have AS and the other person says they think you don't really have it, that is okay because they are agreeing with you so they are being honest. I wasn't mad when one of my online buddied PMed me and told me I may be correct about me not having AS and he has suspected that all along and figured I had another autism condition because of the problems I have that aspies don't have but auties have.

Someplace between angry and frustrated....I voted Anxious...it is really hard for me to feel anger alot of times...
I got laughed at for talking about identifying with people on the autistic spectrum once....and it made me cry....It did not seem fair for a person who did not know me very well to invalidate me in such a way...especially since she was going on and on and on about her schitzophrenia and whatnot.
I received a patronizing lecture about how everyone is different, and we should not worry so much about placing lables on ourselves. That is all very well and good...but I wasn't even placing that lable on myself.
I may not be able to call myself an Aspie, but I don't think that I am a
Socially dysfunctional, emotionally immature, stimming, eye contact avoiding, toe-walking, non-driving, sensory-sensitive, obsessive etc...Neurotypical....

I don't know what I am, but I doubt that I am NT..and I am different from alot of the other people I know who just have ADD.

I usually don't care, it's there problem if they want to be silly over it, that's why you should tell people you trust.

I agree entirely. It seems to me that people are sometimes just being 'polite' as they think its some kind of disability (which it can be in extreme cases)- they say things like "but you're so normal" - this is because I put much effort into getting along with people and doing things their way so superficially I may appear 'normal' to them. Most people who are close to me profesionaly or personally refer to me as odd / mildly eccentric and put this down to AS.
I theorise that this is because NT's have a 'herd mentality' where they feel comfortable being an 'individual' within the confines of a social group, and naturally extend this social courtesy to you. They do this as a way of accepting you into their group, where they are comfortable. It makes me quite fustrated, sad, then angry when they are unable to see past their assumptions about me

If it was a professional or otherwise someone who would be in a position of power over me with regards to my diagnosis, then yeah I might be a bit upset, but to date I've only had this level of surprise or denial from those who aren't in such a position and they can think what they like as far as I'm concerned.

Correction, the majority of cases.

Thanks for the correction. I was writing from my own perspective. I will clarify what I meant.
The reason I said in 'extreme cases' is that from my experience, people generaly expect AS to mean that you are akin to 'rainman' in some way, and there are some people who are affected to such a degree that it is disability(extreme), while there are others who are not so affected, but still need support but are able to live independantly(perhaps the majority), and still others who are able to live independantly, (all be it with some difficulties) and yet are still firmly on the spectrum.

I havent been in the situation where anyone denied that I have Aspergers, If it wasnt a professional it wouldnt bother me at all but if it was then I would be in confusion and wouldnt know how to explain my problems anymore.