Why the hell does everybody want me to drink?

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It seems like every time the subject of alcohol comes up, I get barraged with a crapload of peer pressure concerning why I don't drink it. First of all, I can't even legally drink for another 9 months. Even if I was 21, I still wouldn't care much for drinking. I'd rather stay in complete control of my own mind (which is really hard even while sober)... Yet even people I once considered my closest friends are offering me alcohol, even knowing that I choose not to drink... What's up with that?

(1) A lot of people genuinely feel drinking is lots of fun, and enjoy drinking with other people, and they want you to join in and have fun with them. It's so much fun they can't really believe you don't want to.

(2) Many people who drink a lot, or do a lot of drugs, feel more "normal" if they can convince other people to do it with them.

Either or both of the above factors may be in play when people try to get you to drink.

Don't feel as if people aren't really your friends if they want you to drink. It's a compliment; nobody wants to drink with someone they don't like. They just don't understand the strength of your resolve.

Last edited by juliekitty on 18 Mar 2008, 7:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Don't give in to peer pressure. I admit to doing so on a recent camping trip. I tried a beer, it tasted nasty, and I don't think I will be drinking another.

I drank beer for about 3 years (15-18), and as soon as I was legal, I realized that
a) it's now no big deal, and
b) it still tasted like squaw ##%...

What I get from people is that it would 'loosen me up, and make me relax'...i.e, not be so
'controlled'....probably some o' that in their thinking, as well.

Totally agree with point 2 and they are the worst, when I stopped drinking had to change friends, well most of them.

But its so good to see people your age choosing not to drink, it seems to me your friends are the ones with the problem.

Before being diagnosed when ever I drank things often spiraled out of control, but a lot of that was not understanding myself and feeling at odds in this world. Of course now I choose not to drink and most say my quality of life has improved so much...

I am 34 and don't drink alcohol.

People seem to get offended when I decline alcohol and try to pressure me into drinking.

I end up reassuring people that I am not being judgemental about their alcohol consumption. I really don't care about their level of consumption.

I just don't want a drink of alcohol!

Helen

People also get offended when I decline particular foods they really want me to eat.

What is up with THAT? I wouldn't try to make them eat anything!

Me, I love alcohol. But a friend came over the other night and said he was quitting drinking, and I'm like, Cool. Want a club soda?

People like to do things together food, drink, fun, all of it I've been really working hard to learn to eat and drink things I don't like for people that I do like I've gotten better at it too. Maybe you could say you will and just hold a cup for a long time or something w/o drinking it.

I think most NT's use booze as a social crutch. It's tough being young and not drinking. I am 24, and I stopped drinking at 22. All my friends are guys I know from AA meetings that I go, and otherwise it seems like everyone gets drunk at least sometimes (except for church people). It's lonely and scary sometimes. I know that being drunk and having AS won't help me make NT friends... I tried it before, but instead of being sober and socially awkward, I would be drunk and socially awkward... people would tell me how I acted and eventually I felt so ashamed and embarrassed I had to stop getting drunk. I thought it would make it easier to make friends, and it did eventually, but it was not with the drunk/trendy crowd.

A lot of Nt's seem to use it as a "get off scott free" card to be completely honest, off the wall, do what they don't normally do.

Many seem to say, "Oh, I was so DRUNK that night, I had no control." Regardless of whether or not they did.

I remember the way one of my Drama teachers put it:
"People drink alcohol to give them a reason to explain their fun. If you start really having a good time at event, and really act out, people will believe you are drunk even if you haven't touched a single one."

I've had a couple, but I really don't enjoy it that much. Some flavoured drinks are nice.

When I was your age I was in your exact situation.

In fact, the only way my friends got me to start drinking was to spike my drinks - so watch out!! !!

(My reason for not wanting to drink was because I was afraid it would make me throw up - once I found out that it didn't, I did drink for a while, though not to excess.)

I now no longer drink, because I am trying to lose weight and consider it to be a waste of calories - I would much rather be eating!

I don't miss it at all.

Its very easy 2 b bad but 2 b good its very difficult but i have 2 give credit 2 toadofsteel 4 being himself n not follow other people 2 drink alcohol.

Yes, also lots of people simply cannot comprehend that your idea of fun may be different from their idea of fun and hence don't believe you if you say you don't enjoy something 'everyone' enjoys. I drink but have nothing against people that don't, for whatever reason.

They want you to be like them, which is the cliche version of normal. So they want you to drink because it's "normal".

It's something that takes getting used to. Not that you should, that is.

I had alcoholics around me my whole life, so I grew up hating booze. I didn't like the taste, I didn't like drunk people, and I didn't like how I was treated by those alcoholics in my life. I thought for the longest time, why do it? Better the hard truth than a soft lie.

That must've been forever ago now, as I'm drinking this very moment. I think it was the approach of my 21st birthday that led me to start trying it, sort of a right of passage. So I forced myself through the bitter taste to suck down shot after shot after shot. Beer, is for sissies -.-

It is fun, once you actually get drunk and start talking to people. All those stupid inhibitions you hold just melt away, and it feels so good to be so free. I think I may have even sang a bit of karaoke, and if you knew me, that's saying a lot.

The only thing is, everything in moderation. Moderation, is they key. Hangovers suck...

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